The person she was, that she told me she was, was very clear that our friendship would not fall to the side in favour of a man, that he would have to have his own life and her too, but this was before the man came into the picture.
I guess the trials of living different lives taught me it wasn't best to be like the way I was.... And that the thought that I would expect a significant other to have other friends, other interests, and hobbies outside to our relationship (and for him to respect my outside friends and interests)- so how could I have completely different expectations in a friendship?
Now I see someone who is so afraid that saying "No, I'm hanging out with my friend today, see you later" will result in him leaving her, she can't be the strong woman I know she is.
She's afraid that if she is not there unconditionally and at all times for him, that he will replace her.
My expectations have changed, but the forging-new-relationships part? Easier said than done. Growing up is such a bummer.