[MENTION=4945]EJCC[/MENTION]
I think I've talked about this before....that I look up to an ESTJ so/sx 8w9 in my life. She's elderly though, so she's had lots of experience now. I actually think that all of her experience helps in her relationships. Whenever we talk, no matter what the subject is, she pauses and thinks about it. Then she will give an answer based off how she felt when she experienced something similar. Her advice is always great.
It may sound harsh, but i think one of the reasons her and I are able to be so vulnerable with each other (we've both cried to each other) is because she's experienced a wonderful marriage, that ended tragically with her husband dying from cancer. She has said that before that, she was impatient and not as open to love as she is now. So her and I bond, because I've had a similar problem of watching someone die slowly right in front of my eyes, without me being able to help them.
The other thing I'd like to add, is that her philosophy is like no one else's I know. She is my role model because of this. She really believes that things will work out. She doesn't even question the fact that something might not turn out great. At the same time, she accepts challenges in her life as something fun to overcome. She welcomes them. She also knows how to appreciate the moment, and make people feel welcome.
I think she has a lot of social finesse. This helps to not scare off people. She is patient, understanding, and wise. She's a very strong woman, but you wouldn't know it unless you sat down and had a conversation with her. She has said that she tries not to prove her strength or significance anymore.
Idk if any of this is helpful, but I really do think that when she taps into her experiences, she's able to be genuine, and helpful, while still being vulnerable. She's still very blunt, and to the point though btw, which is probably why we get along so great lol.