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    Quote Originally Posted by Peguy View Post
    I actually hate unexpectedly bumping into people I know whenever I'm out. I just have the sense of wanting to be left alone at such times.
    Really? You mean when you're out alone, or with someone else? It can be fun, but that depends on mood, mostly.
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    When Im alone.

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    Being among a group of people that are actively talking and I'm finding myself incapable of adding to the conversation. I feel stupid and useless.


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    Quote Originally Posted by raz View Post
    Being among a group of people that are actively talking and I'm finding myself incapable of adding to the conversation. I feel stupid and useless.
    Yes I hate this was well. It's even worse when they're discussing a topic that I'm actually interested in, but on such a detailed level I can't follow them. This especially is true concerning historical topics.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Peguy View Post
    Yes I hate this was well. It's even worse when they're discussing a topic that I'm actually interested in, but on such a detailed level I can't follow them. This especially is true concerning historical topics.
    I'm sure that's a problem that a lot of people face, regardless of introvert or extravert. One other thing is being in a group of 30+ people. It reminds me of a dinner party I went to a month ago. I knew only one person there, and I felt so out of place. People started dancing, they were mingling, and all I could do was sit around and...observe. I left 30 minutes later. It was so pointless.


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    Quote Originally Posted by EffEmDoubleyou View Post

    My least favorite introvert situation is a party or dinner or other social gathering where I know almost no one. I don't want to be a leech on the few people I DO know, but I am scared crapless of introducing myself to strangers.
    Same here, I think this and public speaking are my nightmare horrors.

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    What... you mean actual strangers come and sit at your table?

    Woah. I've gotta move to where you live. That would NEVER happen in the UK. You'd have say, 10 tables in a cafe, each with one person sitting at them. A new customer walks in and walks out again - "no room".
    Yeah, I love it , although I must say 2 weeks ago I came in from the rain and all the tables were full, and I actually thought sod this for a laugh and plonked myself down at a table with someone, pulled my book out and drank my hot chocolate. It wasn't so bad because of the book.
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    Public speaking isn't that bad if I'm prepared for it. Leading people is something I can do, but again either I'm prepared and succeed or unprepared and crash and burn.


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    I also find it stressful to make small talk or socialize when eating. It's also hard to just sit near strangers when eating even if our backs are turned. I feel my space is invaded and a certain pressure that the other people are expecting something from me socially.

    I have learned often when I am uncomfortable to go ahead and change the situation. I might take the last roll and juice box and finish on a bench outside. If I had to eat in a cafeteria where people pile in, I might start getting it in a take out box and find a bench by a tree that is "my" little spot for lunching. One good thing is that if you just smile at people in a friendly, supportive way, it is easier to make these adjustments without being perceived as snubbing or rude. And if you think about it, a person has a right to their space and it doesn't have to be unkind to the other people. I usually feel okay doing these things because I don't dislike the people, I just know I need my space. It is partly what helps me like people in general. I try to create the boundaries I need to be comfortable as myself, so no hostility builds up towards anyone. It can be okay to leave.

    One thing difficult for me are required meetings for work where there are a lot of people in a small space and everyone is talking excitedly and loudly. It is like sensory overload especially if there are a lot of emotions being expressed. I tend to perceive too much of the emotions expressed around me and it takes a while to process, so besides the sensory overload, it is also an emotional overload. I have tried to explain it to people - it's almost like having bright spotlights and sirens everywhere, but the emotional equivalent. It's disconcerting. I usually take breaks and go outside and make a call on my cell phone or pretend to just to regain my bearings. I've read someplace that introverts tend to take in more without filters, and it takes longer to process and sort it all out whereas the extrovert filters things as they go and so they don't end up with the same feelings of overload. I think needing space is related to feelings of overload and that is why introverts need it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EffEmDoubleyou View Post
    My least favorite introvert situation is a party or dinner or other social gathering where I know almost no one.
    Yeah, I don't like this either. I'd rather have many people around me that I know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by raz View Post
    Being among a group of people that are actively talking and I'm finding myself incapable of adding to the conversation. I feel stupid and useless.
    +1
    .... and you also feel "forgotten".
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