And I wouldn't dream of trying to help her unless she indicated that she wanted help. I've dropped a few gentle hints but see no interest on her part. Soooooo. We'll do lunch now and then, I suppose, and probably not have a very deep relationship.
I can't say that she disturbs me, but there is a certain caution there for me regarding how genuine she is about her feelings.
Since you asked, there is another. An online acquaintance. I'd like some tips on the best way to interact with her. She is one of the moderators and is pretty aggressive about running things her way.
She's fun and funny, easily offended, bright and full of surprises - both pleasant and unpleasant.
I don't think in this particular forum it would be wise to do any hint of confrontation. It's a senior citizen forum. People are set in their ways and most of them seem to be ISTJs. And they also tend to be some touchy about their values and ideas.
She seems to need a tremendous amount of praise and is quick to jump in and "fix" however she sees fit.
So far, I've been complimenting her on her very clever posts and participating in her playfulness. And the things I see which strike a jarring chord with me I've been overlooking.
I think I just answered my own question. I'm wondering whether my patience will fail and at what point it will be difficult to maintain my membership. That's a sure sign that I will either speak my mind or leave.