Hello, this is my first post, so please, be kind
First of all, I wanted to thank you for helping me understand other people better, you guys are the best!
My question is about an ISFJ I'm crushing on. I am almost sure he feels the same way about me.
When we see each other, it's perfect. We talk on facebook and exchange hundreds of text messages every day.
The only thing that I don't get is why he doesn't want the two of us just to go somewhere without a reason...?
Here's what I mean: When we go somewhere with a group of people [we both belong to a sort of club which gets invited to a lot of concerts and competitions], he always suggests that we both go somewhere afterwards to talk [alone, without the others], have coffee and so on and it's amazing.
But when I suggest that we meet on Saturday here and there just because, there's always an excuse! Today he said that yes, we should totally meet... and then he added that maybe we'll go somewhere after that thing we have in March.
My theory is that he doesn't want me to figure out his feelings, because if he invites me on a date, it would say a lot about what his feelings are, and if we happen to go somewhere right after a concert, it wouldn't? He came all the way to my school once and pretended he had to talk to one of my classmates [which was a small thing actually] and spent almost all that time with me. Why pretend? Why look for excuses? To me it's all the same..
I'm just really not sure how I'm supposed to act! Should I try to convince him to see me without a reason? Or should I play along and see what happens?
Please, dearest ISFJs, help me out here! I'm an ENFJ so I need lots of human contact!