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    Ask away friends!
    Last edited by Showbread; 04-28-2015 at 10:29 PM.
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    How do you feel/behave around people you know (or believe) can never truly be your friend, but they treat your nicely because they probably think they are your friend?
    You are so arbitrary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    How do you feel/behave around people you know (or believe) can never truly be your friend, but they treat your nicely because they probably think they are your friend?
    I hate that situation. I guess it would depend on why I think they can never be my friend? Do they just really drive me crazy?
    I generally try to be nice to people because at one point I felt like I really didn't have any friends. But, at the same I suppose I also try not to be too friendly...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Showbread View Post
    I hate that situation. I guess it would depend on why I think they can never be my friend? Do they just really drive me crazy?
    I generally try to be nice to people because at one point I felt like I really didn't have any friends. But, at the same I suppose I also try not to be too friendly...
    ...Well, they don't drive your crazy necessarily. You probably like them and think the person is great in her/his own right, but because of their personality, you think that it's not the kind of friendship that you could benefit from. The person may be too judgmental or too rigid in her expectations about how people should behave, so even though things may be going well between you two for now, you're not sure how things will be in the future...
    You are so arbitrary.

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    I think you're looking for the ESFJ hate thread. My condolences.

    http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...te-thread.html
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    Quote Originally Posted by thoughtlost View Post
    ...Well, they don't drive your crazy necessarily. You probably like them and think the person is great in her/his own right, but because of their personality, you think that it's not the kind of friendship that you could benefit from. The person may be too judgmental or too rigid in her expectations about how people should behave, so even though things may be going well between you two for now, you're not sure how things will be in the future...
    I usually just try to let things like resolve themselves, and they usually do. I'm pretty vocal about my opinions, and unfortunately I don't seem to have great control over my facial expressions, so people usually know if I'm annoyed with them or something they say. Generally if I see things starting to go south, I kind of stop initiating things and see where it goes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haven View Post
    I think you're looking for the ESFJ hate thread. My condolences.

    http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...te-thread.html
    I generally just try to pretend that thread doesn't exist. lol
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    I always find it really difficult to answer those "how would you act in this situation" questions because how I act is governed by my immediate reading of the situation briefly weighed against some mess I call a values system. That is to say I can't predict how I will act with much accuracy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haven View Post
    I always find it really difficult to answer those "how would you act in this situation" questions because how I act is governed by my immediate reading of the situation briefly weighed against some mess I call a values system. That is to say I can't predict how I will act with much accuracy.
    Yes! I am not a huge fan of hypothetical situations. For me, so much depends on the person, situation, reasons for what happened. I consider a lot of things before making decisions.
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