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    Quote Originally Posted by great_bay View Post
    What's your relationship with ENFJs?
    I generally like them a lot! I can find them overwhelming and too intense, but for the most part we get along really well. I've had two ENFJ roommates over the years and they've been great. We tend to have very similar house rules, both spoken and unspoken. I don't think I could ever date one, but they make great friends and are a lot of fun to spend time with. IME they also tend to have kind of silly senses of humor. Both of my roommates have been extremely punny.


    Quote Originally Posted by Beshr Al Bakri View Post
    Do you need continous thanks for the service that you do with your friends to have self satisfaction? Or you feel it useless once we thank you many times?

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    Not really... I don't usually offer services/help with the expectation of repeated thanks. TBH, I usually just do it because I genuinely like helping others. When I am thanked many times it actually just makes the thanks seem less sincere. Genuine/sincere thanks are nice and appreciated though, especially if I seriously inconvenience myself to help.

    I'm also not an enneagram 2 though. Perhaps you have confused this trait with that since they so often coincide.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Showbread View Post
    I don't think I could ever date one
    Oh god the idea of two Fe doms dating would be like crossing the streams. It could work but... the idea of that much energy is offputting even to me! At best it would just turn into a twisted version of a sugar coma.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hard View Post
    Oh god the idea of two Fe doms dating would be like crossing the streams. It could work but... the idea of that much energy is offputting even to me! At best it would just turn into a twisted version of a sugar coma.
    I feel like one of them (probably the ESFJ) would have to be the Thinker of the relationship, lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Showbread View Post
    Not really... I don't usually offer services/help with the expectation of repeated thanks. TBH, I usually just do it because I genuinely like helping others. When I am thanked many times it actually just makes the thanks seem less sincere. Genuine/sincere thanks are nice and appreciated though, especially if I seriously inconvenience myself to help.

    I'm also not an enneagram 2 though. Perhaps you have confused this trait with that since they so often coincide.
    See I get this a lot. People always think there is some sort of expectation or motive to my actions. I completely feel the same way though, I do it because I want to help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hard View Post
    Oh god the idea of two Fe doms dating would be like crossing the streams. It could work but... the idea of that much energy is offputting even to me! At best it would just turn into a twisted version of a sugar coma.
    I feel like it would be a constant competition of who can give more lol "What do you want?" "No, what do you want?" "NO DAMMIT WHAT DO YOU WANT?!?!"

    That might become exhausting. But I feel like a close Fe dome friendship would make me very happy. I enjoy my inferior Fe S/O lol He does really well with that tiny fe of his. It's pretty great.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CarolineForbes View Post
    I feel like it would be a constant competition of who can give more lol "What do you want?" "No, what do you want?" "NO DAMMIT WHAT DO YOU WANT?!?!"
    See, I think being SO/SP and a 3 helps me on this front tremendously. I generally have no inhibitions about stating what I want, unless it would add tension to situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Showbread View Post
    See, I think being SO/SP and a 3 helps me on this front tremendously. I generally have no inhibitions about stating what I want, unless it would add tension to situation.
    That makes complete sense. I am Sx/So. My s/p is pretty low. LOL. I'm generally too concerned with how my desires will effect others to actually state what I want.

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    What do you think about dating your benefit relations which is ESTP?

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