Hey everyone! I'm new here! I'm a well-rounded ENTP. It has been a difficult journey, but I'm happy to say that after trying so hard and going through a lot of things, I've developed a good understanding of those stubborn little things called 'feelings'. (I can actually get pretty emotional now and -gasp- cry in front of people??? Blasphemy!)
I've been lurking around trying to gather information on how ISFJs work because, well, I kind of have a crush on one. We have an established friendship, although we've only known each other for about four months (since law school began). Because of my really good observation skills, I pinned him as an introvert really early on even though he got out of his comfort zone by going out to the bars with big groups of people every week. You ISFJs are good at being group chameleons (but I see you blending into the corner, get outta there!) At one point I mentioned the Meyer-Briggs test and he took it, coming out as an ISFJ. Knowing him, it definitely makes sense.
I guess I have two questions:
(1) How, as an ENTP, I can build a good relationship with an ISFJ?
(2) How can I tell if he's into me too?
I guess I should mention I've very aware of how he works, so I've been very subtle (I tend to flirt very subtly anyway, unless I'm with the person). He also mentioned (very early on) that he isn't looking for anyone because he still has feelings for his ex-girlfriend back at home (they broke up because of the distance, although I believe couples NEVER break up because of the distance and that's an excuse for other problems...).
At the same time though, I can't help but think that he's been flirting with me and showing me he's interested. I know that he's probably testing the waters, but we've been hanging out more and more and then he does those "little" things (which I love) like interrupt me while I'm collecting everyone's trash to throw it away and doing it himself for me.
I'm aware that he's probably mulling over his feelings for his ex while our relationship slowly gets stronger and I don't want to be "that girl" who purposefully manipulates him into moving on. I'd like him to move on on his own, for his own sake, and for mine too if it goes anywhere. How do I deal with this? I'm getting ENTP impatient and wanting to just give him an obvious hint like "accidentally" keeping my hand on him for too long or something.