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    Hey girls,

    So the reason I am posting this new thread is because I reciently met an ISTJ girl who I really like. Typically I'm not into ISTJs because I tend to find them quite opposite but there is definitely something about this girl! Anyways, I was wondering what sort of pointers other ISTJs have for me? She is quite a bit more introverted than I am as well as logical. When we talk on the phone she likes to keep things short and seems to live a much more structured less revealed life. The funny thing is I am slightly intimidated by this but at the same time quite intreeged. We are going to hang out soon and I basically wanted to know what sort of things other ISTJs would consider fun. I know that she really likes animals and enjoys reading etc.. I should also mention that I am older and haven't really had a whole lot of interpersonal time with ISTJs. I really like this girl and feel like she could bring some new light into my life but at the same time I'm definitely feeling a little bit vulnerable. Anyways, I guess I should tell you guys that I'm an INFJ so that everyone can have a better sense of what the chemistry might look like.

    Any advice is greatly appreciated

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    You know I think there's just one on this site. Haha
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    Well I guess there's not to many ISTJs around. I don't get it, this site seems to be full of the rarest types but hardly of the types that are supposed to be more plentiful. I think there are probably a large majority of mistypes on this forum. It's actually really unfortunate because its throwing off the balance in a huge way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A_priori View Post
    Well I guess there's not to many ISTJs around. I don't get it, this site seems to be full of the rarest types but hardly of the types that are supposed to be more plentiful. I think there are probably a large majority of mistypes on this forum. It's actually really unfortunate because its throwing off the balance in a huge way.
    Yup.

    Everyone is either an INFJ, INTP, or INFP. : P

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    Quote Originally Posted by Saudade View Post
    Yup.

    Everyone is either an INFJ, INTP, or INFP. : P
    Ya exactly, I mean not to go completely off topic but I don't really understand why. I do not in anyway truly honestly think that I have any special assets that others don't make up for in other areas. Every single type has something so incredibly unique. I'll give you an example.. The best councillor I have ever met is ESFP and the most mechanically inclined person I know is not ISTP. It's all about integrity "doing the right things for the right reasons" if you can do this on a regular basis, you can live and be the person everyone dreams of having a reputation of.

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    Let's try this:
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    Well you have to account for interests and priorities as an example my ex istj husband once told me... You know those people aren't real.
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    Off the top of my head... The ideal first dates are somewhere quiet, but not so intimate that it's intimidating. Quaint little coffee shops or cafes, walking through a public park on a pretty day, museums or art galleries. Somewhere public but not overwhelmingly busy. Movies are bad, because it doesn't really give any opportunity to talk, and therefore won't make any progress in the relationship. Somewhere too personal (like inviting over to your place) is intimidating early on and best left for after you're more familiar.

    Small talk is boring, but conversation that delves too deep into my personal life is off-putting until I get to know you better. Talk about hobbies, interests, books, movies, tv, anything superficial like that that you have common interest in. School subjects, and passions like that. Try to avoid anything too deep like feelings, family, pasts, etc. We've got walls, and it takes awhile before you're allowed to see inside those. Just try to play it by ear - if I get uncomfortable with a conversation, I get really brief with my answers (one word responses). It's a big relief when the subject gets changed.

    I'm not sure if that's what you were looking for, but that's the cliffnotes for my particular brand of ISTJ.
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    My sister is an ISTJ and I can definitely see her being uncomfortable on a date that was too "date-y". She gets really uncomfortable when she feel pressure to act like formal or stuffy or something. She loves animals too, and likes to be outside or 'doing' something like sports or working with her hands. I don't think she'd do well with a lot of personal questions, she'd to ably just prefer to focus on a task together an have fun/joke around/get a job done while doing it.

    I do know one other ISTJ male, and I can honestly say these things seem to fit him too. Good luck!
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