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    Well I know I was warned by a few people here but her structure and lack of effort is getting to me a little bit. I'm starting to feel like I have to schedule and appointment just to call and talk to her. She's super sweet though, I guess I'm just starting to get a better sense of our differences as the smoke clears.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A_priori View Post
    Well I know I was warned by a few people here but her structure and lack of effort is getting to me a little bit. I'm starting to feel like I have to schedule and appointment just to call and talk to her. She's super sweet though, I guess I'm just starting to get a better sense of our differences as the smoke clears.
    "Lack of effort" meaning lack of emotional effort? Or too closed-off to make an effort? Something like that?
    You can't spell "justice" without ISTJ.

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    Be direct and tell her how you feel. If someone told me that I wasn't giving enough to the relationship, I would immediately apologize and explain myself. As someone who is very aware of politeness and rudeness, I'm sure she's aware if she's crossing the line and being rude, especially to someone she cares about.

    When I first started dating my ENFP husband, I felt smothered by his clinginess and constant need for attention. I needed a lot more recharge time, as an introvert, and felt smothered by the constant e-mails, calls, and his constantly being there. We finally talked about it and I said, "you're calling me too much. It doesn't mean that I don't love you, but I need my alone time!"

    SJs are very practical. I'm sure you will be able to work out a schedule that works for both of you.
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