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    Default What do Male ESFJs do?

    There are all these stereotypes about ESFJs being soccer moms and slaving over sewing machines, but what the hell do male ESFJs do? My theory is that the male ESFJ archetype is the secretly-effeminate jock or the smiling faithful thug. They blend into mainstream male culture perfectly, but still have that ESFJ warmth and earthiness to them.

    John Cena comes to mind:



    Drake too:



    They're more likely to be seen as "normal" than ENFP males.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stansmith View Post
    They blend into mainstream male culture perfectly, but still have that ESFJ warmth and earthiness to them.
    That's basically what I've seen. They seem like comedians, as the ones I know still have that stereotypical "guy" sense of humor which they use to liven up the group.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chanaynay View Post
    That's basically what I've seen. They seem like comedians, as the ones I know still have that stereotypical "guy" sense of humor which they use to liven up the group.
    They're like really, really down-to-earth ENTPs with average joe appeal. Maybe even more ESTP if anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stansmith View Post
    They're like really, really down-to-earth ENTPs with average joe appeal. Maybe even more ESTP if anything.
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    Exact image that comes to mind. A large chunk of body builders are ESFJ IMO

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    ESFJ men actually fit a socially "masculine" stereotype very well, in whatever culture they happen to live in, but they also are Fe doms so in my experience make doting boyfriends or husbands, or wonderful gay best friends who will do your hair for free but chastise you for defying gender roles (seriously, I have an ESFJ gay friend who is very careful not to gender bend, and he seems to think that despite homosexuality, people should play their gender role, that includes women, whom he doesn't even have a relationship with, he just believes in this for the traditional social order of it!)

    My ESFJ ex is precisely the kind of man you guys are picturing here...Actually maybe someone more like Drake...he has hair and smiles a lot and doesn't shave his head or act like a bodybuilder...but he does lift weights, takes pride in having fighting skills, would carry my groceries for me, walked on the traffic side of the street, et al.

    Secretly effeminate jock is good. I honestly think for this reason they can be seen as highly desirable by women for physically representing mainstream masculine gender roles but also being "sensitive."

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    I can buy drake as an ESFJ. I have a big crush on him that I can't really explain. He's kinda funny looking and really corny but he's still sexy to me for some reason.

    Plus I watched him on degrassi for years

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    I know one who is a coal miner, is quite adept at cooking, and who has some nature based collections. He can identify any bird or wildflower, also. He carves and is quite family oriented.

    There is a wide variety of people within each type, but I've noticed the huge range within ESFJ, but we don't really get a good look at it in this environment.
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    Yup! One of my best buds is ESFJ, and he likes all the typical guy stuff, and likes to make sure he projects that image. He's a victim of the trying-too-hard, sometimes. He has a soft side that's concerned about your feelings, that mostly comes out when he knows he can trust you with his image.

    Favorite pastimes: Beer, fixing cars, playing guitar, (failing to) pick up chicks at bars, telling crude jokes, etc.
    *Not the "best" example of an ESFJ, but he's a good friend.
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