Hi! Sorry for infiltrating the SJ thread...I am an INFJ who needs advice on an ISFJ I'm dating. So I thought I would turn to the experts, other ISTJs! Thanks in advance for your advice, you might save me a lot of heartache.
I've been hurt by men before as I can be naive and also rush into things. 3.5 weeks ago I met a guy who does what he says he's going to, seems caring, is really smart and happens to be ISTJ. He's also 45 and never been married. He has a good job and is generally stable. He seems very serious about finding someone. We date and text as he doesn't seem much for the phone. Last weekend my dog almost died in a very traumatic way and the vet said I should put him down. This new guy was MIA. When I tried to call he did not answer at 4pm on a Sat when he said he'd be home working on his house. 3 calls later he answered with a concerned, are you ok? In tears I explained everything, he expressed condolences and we hung up. The next day was D day for my dog. I heard nothing, not a peep from this guy.
He did text Monday asking how me and my dog were. I tried to call him last night to talk about my needs, but he didn't answer, he had told me he is busy with work this week. So anyway my question is, is this an uncaring guy I need to drop or is it possible he did not realize I needed a call Sunday for support? Am I dealing with an ISTJ thing or just an unfeeling guy?