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    Default ISxJs - Do you relate easily to other Si-dom in person?

    ISxJs, when you encounter another of your kind in person, do you find it easy to see yourself in them or not?
    Besides your own type (ISTJ or ISFJ), which type do you tend to see some reflection of yourself in (in person mainly)?

    If you ever get compared to other people in person, does it tend to be a "neighbor" type (ie. an ISFP or INFJ for ISFJ, or ESTJ for ISTJ) or is it usually completely unrelated to type?
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    When I was on PerC, I found I didn't have a whole lot in common with most of the other ISTJs, though people did compare me to some. I'm good friends with @MBTI Enthusiast still, she's an ISTJ and a 9w1. I have a 9 fix, and I'm a reasonably healthy six, so I guess that could be part of it, too. We relate a bit when we talk, which admittedly isn't that often, and is only online. Her boyfriend is an ISTJ with almost the same tritype as me too, and there are things about him, from his posts on PerC, that I relate to as well.

    You're asking in person, which makes more sense of course... I have connected rather well with the female ISFJs I've known in real life. I think my ex-wife may have been ISFJ (she tentatively considered herself INFJ, but knows almost nothing of typology aside from the results of her test). She's a 4w3, without question. I've never known anyone who better fits that enneagram type. I didn't see much of myself in her at all, I guess. We had fun anyway. I had an ISFJ friend for a little while a couple of years ago who I got along with OK but we didn't hang out much. I forget her type, she's on PerC but I can't look at her type since I was banned. The ex-girlfriend I had before my ex-wife I also believe to be ISFJ, and she and I got along very well too. I could see a lot of myself in her, we related very well while we were together.

    I don't think I've been compared to other people in person. Online I get compared to a few other sixes and a few nines. There was a thread over on PerC asking what members certain members remind you of, and there were a few mentioned there. I'm sure some were Si-dom.

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    Unfortunately no. I relate very little to most people anyhow and have never noticed an affinity with other ISFJ's.

    But of course bias being what it is, (and franky I needn't harp on this horn as it is always constantly blowing), but people often assume Sensing types, especially SJ's, to be copies of each other for some reason.

    Possibly because the concept of type was thought of and adapted by intuitives. Assuming of course that any of this is an inherency that we gave terms to instead of the other way around.
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    I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that SJs (and maybe sensors in general) identify more with people who share common interests and like to do the same kinds of things, whereas NFs (and perhaps intuitives as a whole) are more likely to find common ground based on patterns of thinking and behaviour, even if directed towards different ends.

    I don't know though, it's just idle conjecture.

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    Generally, yes. Sometimes we're just too different as individuals (insofar as interests and hobbies go) but otherwise I get along with them very well
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    Quote Originally Posted by senza tema View Post
    I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that SJs (and maybe sensors in general) identify more with people who share common interests and like to do the same kinds of things, whereas NFs (and perhaps intuitives as a whole) are more likely to find common ground based on patterns of thinking and behaviour, even if directed towards different ends.

    I don't know though, it's just idle conjecture.
    That's EXACTLY something I was "suspecting", and partly why I asked the question.

    Si-dom, when you do find yourself relating to someone, what are the factors?
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    Si-dom, when you do find yourself relating to someone, what are the factors?
    Similar values (for example if someone goes off on a rape culture rant, or something about religious hypocrisy, I'm totally there), strong sense of humor, similar interests, and that rare instance where I see someone standing up for the little guy, or defending an unpopular position against the masses.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    That's EXACTLY something I was "suspecting", and partly why I asked the question.

    Si-dom, when you do find yourself relating to someone, what are the factors?
    Quote Originally Posted by Stephen View Post
    Similar values (for example if someone goes off on a rape culture rant, or something about religious hypocrisy, I'm totally there), strong sense of humor, similar interests, and that rare instance where I see someone standing up for the little guy, or defending an unpopular position against the masses.
    +1. Similar values and interests are primarily what make me click with a person. I can get along with virtually anyone but how much I engage them depends on how much I can relate to them.
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    Yes, I get along with and relate well to other Si doms.

    I relate more to individuals than whole types, but if I had to pick another type I relate most to, it would probably be INFJs.

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    Not an Si-dom, but...
    Quote Originally Posted by senza tema View Post
    I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that SJs (and maybe sensors in general) identify more with people who share common interests and like to do the same kinds of things, whereas NFs (and perhaps intuitives as a whole) are more likely to find common ground based on patterns of thinking and behaviour, even if directed towards different ends.

    I don't know though, it's just idle conjecture.
    ^ Meshes well with my experience. I'd answer exactly the same way as Tinker and Stephen in terms of what leads me to connect with people. Values emphasis is probably part of the reason why I'm friends with so many NFs irl.
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