My sister in law can drive me crazy (so can my father, but that's another topic.) Both however, are ISTJ's and both do the same thing: whatever's up with you, they've had it harder, or done it better, or seen it / had that idea before, or they tried to tell you XYZ years ago etc.
"YOU THINK YOU'VE GOT IT TOUGH? I'VE HAD IT TOUGHER!"
Here's an example of what I mean. Our dog is dying of cancer and my daughter is flying across the Atlantic as I type this, so I've been up texting with her answering flight terminal questions at 4:30 am and the dog needing out at 5:45 am:
Me (in the middle of answering how things are going): I am so tired today, 3 nights in a row of 6 hours sleep!
Her: 6 hours of sleep !?!? That’s my usual, if I’m lucky.
Now, as more data here, I had surgery (a good many years ago now) on my thyroid and since then, less sleep is a challenge for me. But I don't talk about it or whine about it to ANYONE, except for my husband. I really do need more sleep. Mornings are difficult. I wouldn't have even mentioned today to her if it wasn't in the conversation.
So, how do I respond to the above? Mostly I ignore it, because frankly, it's not worth the bother of trying to explain it because all it comes across as is some kind of excuse. And I try NOT to let it bother me, but sometimes, the lack of what I consider an appropriate social response is hurtful and annoying.
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