Weeell, there's always the exceptions -- and there's also the habit of INTJs that if they decide they need a skill, they go out and get it with a lot of effort. INTJs are usually considered bad communicators, but because of a lot of effort on my part I've become halfway decent at communicating my ideas.
Your INTJ may be good with people, but it's not usual across the board, or at least not until their thirties and forties.
YES I realize that this post is ironic because it's terribly phrased but give me a break it's 2 AM. I need sleep...
Oh sorry I wasn't trying to argue or anything. I just wanted it clear that being an INTJ will not automatically make you socially handicaped. Oh and don't worry about your phrasing it's fine.
"How dreadful!" cried Lord Henry. "I can stand brute force, but brute reason is quite unbearable. There is something unfair about its use. It is hitting below the intellect." ~ Oscar Wilde - The picture of Dorian Gray
All I can say is I'm friends with an ESFJ woman and an INTJ guy... she thinks he's "weird" and "rude", he thinks she's "loud" and "annoying"... but then again I'm INTP, and she gets along with me quite well.
I'm ESFJ and my husband is INTJ, and really, when I read about Dualty relations I couldn't agree more! We've been together for almost seven years and our relationship is growing stronger and stronger for every year. I also have a friend who is INTJ, and with both him and my husband I feel I can relax more than with other people. I guess it has to do with their honesty and uncomplex way of communicating. Actually, when I met my husband I felt at once that I could be 100% myself, and so did he. The SF part of me enriches his life, (he says) so don't be scared =0)