I only just heard about this personality typing thing from a friend last night, and I must admit, I find it very illuminating. I heard about it thanks to a friend to whom I was speaking about my work situation (which could be better – in particular my boss) and he used my mobile phone to find a personality profile online and asked me to read it. It sounded exactly like my boss, and it was the profile of an ISTJ.
He then asked me a question or two, and asked me to read another profile that he got up on my phone. It sounded exactly like me. It was the profile of an ENFP.
So here’s the problem: I work for an incredibly difficult person. Based purely on personality profiles as shown to me by my friend yesterday, I understand that there’s a basic difference between the way we see the world, but two other people work for Boss full time, and one part-time, and the full-timers at least do not find her easy to work for, either (the other person works in an adjacent office and therefore manages to avoid much of the fall-out that occurs). I was wondering if you could offer any advice as to how to navigate working with this Boss, and to avoid the nuclear fall-out for the rest of the time?
Examples of my boss’s behaviour:
• SHOUTING AT PEOPLE LOTS FOR NO REAL REASON AND BEHAVING IN AN UNPLEASANT AND UNNECESSARILY AGGRESSIVE MANNER WHEN DISPLEASED WITH THE TINIEST THING;
• Throwing HUGE temper tantrums over small things, stomping around the office and slamming the same file down on the desk repeatedly between my colleague and I, a bit like an overgrown toddle throwing a tantrum;
• OCD-like behaviour…I’m an adult…I leave my desk set up tidily but in the best order for me to get straight back down to work the second I come back from lunch, I do not appreciate finding that it has been ‘tidied’ in my absence…I can do that myself when required, thank you very much;
• Micromanaging us all – particularly me as the newbie - to death. Then getting incredibly angry when, as my concentration has been interrupted from the task I have been doing, I do not tell Boss a figure with the currency attached to it when Boss asks, due to the fact I have been interrupted and my head is half elsewhere;
• Shouting at one of the other people who works there, who then replies a little in kind, to the point where I will be on the telephone with a client/supplier and have to put the call on hold as neither I nor my interlocutor can hear each other, so I have to put the call on hold and ask them to keep it down;
• Never giving us any praise in the slightest, just to give us an idea that we are working in the right direction (perhaps not such a concern for the others, rather me, as I’m quite new and it’s my first time working in this industry), only criticising the slightest mistake we make more viciously than proportional to the size of the mistake;
• Possibly bugging the office – not the phones, or monitoring the computer usage, but I mean actually bugging the office to listen to our general chit-chat when Boss is not there (all of the full-timers have reason to think this might have been done due to an incident in the last few weeks, but it’s just a suspicion – there’s no proof …yet…);
I have been in this new job for a few months – but hopefully not many more – and I need to find a way to navigate my way through so that when I leave I get a good reference. I’m also worried about the potential for her to ‘take me into the other office for a talking to’ regarding the issue with the figures plus currency as I have accidentally done that more than once, and Boss is really annoyed about it. I try really hard not to do it, but it is going to take a bit of time to get it into my head as I think it’s a habit I have, and habits take a while to break, and I think that Boss’s idea of ‘taking me into the other office for a talking to’ will essentially be Boss screaming at me for 15 minutes or so, and there is literally NO WAY I am going to take that…I will walk out of the office first.
So, any tips?!
Thanks in advance!