User Tag List

First 12

Results 11 to 16 of 16

Thread: ISFJ & loyalty

  1. #11
    No moss growing on me Giggly's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    iSFj
    Enneagram
    2 sx/so
    Posts
    9,666

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sungod View Post
    I'm ENFP, very strongly.

    Thanks, I appreciate the life advice , but can you please expound upon your answer? I'd like to understand what's happening in her head. Why fire, exactly? Why is she acting this way if she's ISFJ? What are her intentions? She seeks ME out, I'm just along for the ride...
    Please understand that it's impossible for me (or anyone) to know exactly what she's feeling but I'm thinking she wants you to be her new boyfriend but she's going about it all wrong and too fast. I think you should remind her of that. Tell her that you like her a lot and will be there as a friend for her in the meantime but that she should focus on figuring out what's going on with her boyfriend first before going there with you. And of course don't do any drinking and making out with her.

  2. #12
    Senior Member UniqueMixture's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    MBTI
    estj
    Enneagram
    378 sx/so
    Socionics
    esfp
    Posts
    3,038

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sungod View Post
    She's 30. Definitely an ISFJ, had her test. I test everyone in my life. Life's too short to waste time.

    Thanks for the comment. Ah, but you're ESFP I stay away from ESFPs, I've learned my lesson You guys are my absolute first pick, hands down. I love me some performers... but it just gets too ridiculous, way too fast. Plus, ONE psycho hot potato is enough in a relationship (me). I've got way too much N to focus on a performer... After the sizzle dies down, and my brain turns back ON (from the comatose-like state the ESFP induced on me), I get bored.

    Since that night, the flirting has gotten more intense, and she wants to come over again, so all is not lost with her, I know that much.
    30, ah that makes more sense. No, the esfp thing is just me being funny
    For all that we have done, as a civilization, as individuals, the universe is not stable, and nor is any single thing within it. Stars consume themselves, the universe itself rushes apart, and we ourselves are composed of matter in constant flux. Colonies of cells in temporary alliance, replicating and decaying and housed within, an incandescent cloud of electrical impulses. This is reality, this is self knowledge, and the perception of it will, of course, make you dizzy.

  3. #13
    Junior Member
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Enneagram
    7 sx
    Posts
    6

    Default

    Thank you, all. I'm in possession of new information, directly from her. Giggly, she DOES in fact want me as her new boyfriend. However I agree, this is the wrong way to go about it. I'll have to find a way to slow this train. Thank you all very much for your input!

  4. #14
    No moss growing on me Giggly's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    MBTI
    iSFj
    Enneagram
    2 sx/so
    Posts
    9,666

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by sungod View Post
    Thank you, all. I'm in possession of new information, directly from her. Giggly, she DOES in fact want me as her new boyfriend. However I agree, this is the wrong way to go about it. I'll have to find a way to slow this train. Thank you all very much for your input!
    You're welcome.

  5. #15
    Junior Member Fire's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    12

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Tiltyred View Post
    Ok, but this is very simple -- she's not mysterious -- you are making her feel good, so she wants some more. That's really all there is to it. It's not about you and it's not about looking thoughtfully into her actions and their implications and knowing what she's doing. She'll probably stay with her boyfriend and fool around with you as long as she can get away with it -- because it feels good -- the attention feels good, the thrill is happening. Many women (and men for that matter) love foreplay and stop getting as much as they like after they are in a relationship. She's getting her kissing and petting needs satisfied. You, in the meantime, think all this means something. You're playing with fire because you're emotionally involved and she isn't. -- Look, it's true of people that if they'll do it to anybody, they'll do it to you. Do you want some girl who does this behind her boyfriend's back? What are you gaining if you do get her all to yourself? Why would she treat you differently, are you so special, so different from every other guy? This is a kind of bittersweet thing, what you're doing, and I want to say it's for someone with more sophistication than you are showing with the questions you ask, to be able to keep your balance when you feel swept off your feet a little but you know good and well she is with someone else and this will probably come to nothing. If you can enjoy it in the moment and forget it when it's over, then go ahead. If it's going to mess you up when she drops you, stop now.

    Also, the drinking is so she has an excuse when it all comes down on her head. "It didn't mean anything. I was drunk."
    Great observations.

  6. #16
    Banned
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    5w6 sx/so
    Socionics
    Will
    Posts
    5,927

    Default

    ISFJs are such warm kind lovely cuddly people and without them we would have no protection against the evil Ts!

Similar Threads

  1. [ISFJ] Where my ISFJs at?
    By Oberon in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 377
    Last Post: 10-11-2017, 03:56 PM
  2. [ISFJ] I have this weird problem: ISFJ women.
    By mysavior in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 99
    Last Post: 01-20-2017, 11:15 PM
  3. [ISFJ] ISFJ's, loyalty and friendship?
    By BerberElla in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 27
    Last Post: 11-08-2009, 05:49 PM
  4. [ISFJ] Help me understand and respect my ISFJ mate?
    By crandolph in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 42
    Last Post: 01-16-2008, 03:22 PM
  5. [ISFJ] ISFJ's Inflexibility
    By Zhash in forum The SJ Guardhouse (ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
    Replies: 64
    Last Post: 01-04-2008, 09:55 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO