I dated an ISTJ for a month and a half, but things were going too fast because we have very strong chemistry and it freaked him out. Now, I wasn't rushing him. I just wanted to enjoy getting to know each other. He was very regimented in his approach at dating which I had NEVER encountered before, and that freaked me out.
So he broke things off with a view to establishing a strong friendship first. (We started dating when we had first met.) I made the HUGE mistake of whining, crying, and trying to convince him that we should stay together for the next month after that until I realized it was pointless and only infuriating him. REALLY infuriating him as he wants to be in control at all times. And of course, he said he wants to be right. Being an extremely intelligent and well-traveled female we nearly came to blows over the quest for being right/in control. We are both very stubborn people, but I care more about peace and harmony than being right. I approached the subject a few more times only to get burned by the dragon who guards his cave.
Now it has been 6 months that we've been broken up today. We see each other every day as we do volunteer ministry (didn't want you to think we were on probation or something!) work together, and it is obviously by his expressions that he is greatly leaning towards getting back together. Being an NF, I'm now really focused on making things work if we do get back together. We can't seem to get each other out of our skins. We have talked about getting back together, but he is afraid the past will repeat itself and that we won't get along. We NEVER fight in person as we are both in tune through non-verbal communication. Both of us have made major strides in developing mutual respect and understanding of one another. However, what advice can you give me to make it work. I really love this guy. He is the most respectable, lovable, affectionate person who has more than exceeded my expectations on what I want/need, not to mention that I still get butterflies every time he glances at me.
HELP me not screw it up, please!