Congrats for over a decade! That's awesome!
And I think this may have been one of the many threads I started, lol : http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...sive-istj.html
In short, we broke up for a couple different reasons, we had previously been dating for a few years and we both weren't sure if we were right to get married to each other due to having little dating experience outside of eachother & also our differences, i.e. some personality, but mainly just backgrounds, and how we would decide to raise kids...--- many of our problems, we felt WOULD/COULD appear if we got married... it's hard to discuss how you're going to be years from now... I mean, I could! But he hates speaking hypothetically.