I usually identify my mother as ESFJ, and have wondered at times whether this is accurate. She was definitely an E: always the life of the party, and very outgoing. I used to think ESFP due to her fun-loving nature, until I understood function theory better. Her primary function was clearly Fe. She was driven by what others thought of her, and always seeking external approval. An ESFP would seem driven more by her internal desires. I suppose she could be ENFJ, but she was always very rooted in the present moment, liked her environment to be orderly, attractive, and "just-so", and enjoyed the tasks related to making it that way. She was an impeccable hostess who loved providing for her family and entertaining her friends.
So, I think she was the real deal. I also think she never completely understood me, and was probably not as intelligent in the traditional sense, but we always had a good relationship. I appreciated in her the many qualities that I lack, and the extent to which I have even a hint of some of them (e.g. social skills) is due to her deliberate influence.