I have a very close ESFJ friend who is understandably very upset. It's her birthday and her parents, having forgot for the 3rd year in a row, are taking her older brother out for dinner and not taking her along.
I don't know what to do when she gets upset. The things that help me seemed to do the opposite for her. I brought up Camus' interpretation of the myth of sisyphus and how accepting things as inevitable can allow a person to disregard negative circumstances. Absurdism is a comfort to me, but did not help her at all. I suggested fun things to do that might take her mind off of it or release stress (music and art, both of which she has a real talent for), and she refused to try. Unfortunately, I can't go over there to comfort her or distract her in person because I all ready promised my mother that I would cook dinner for the family (and I feel bad about going out every night when I leave for college in a week)
What am I supposed to do when she's upset? What is the appropriate response?