I'm trying to type my mom, who I have bad relationship with. I want to know what has gone wrong. I am like her in many ways. So an understanding of her can help me understand myself, and my relationship with her.
In my experience of her,
she is introverted. She hardly has friends.
She is very inconfident person. Fear of failure.
Cold. Uncaring and critical to me.
Nothing ever satisfies her. Nothing makes her happy.
She has a sad look on her.
A lot of anxiety. She worries about everything.
She creates stories in her head about people and imagines the worst.
She imagines that people are against her.
She is very neat person. Which is why I think she's ISFJ while I'm ISFP, cos i'm messy.
She's Anal about cleanliness. In fact neurotic. She imagines that the "dirty dust" of a woman's underwear would float into the air and settle and "contaminate" other things eg clean dishes.
She is good in beautifying the home, choosing right bedsheets, etc. I think that's an ISFJ trait? I'm bad at beautifying my own bedroom.
In social situations, she's inadequate and inconfident and keeps to herself.
I have never seen her interested in knowledge or reading. So i doubt she is N.
She likes to sing, cook, bake and do crochet. So i think she's S?
She guilts trip family members, makes sarcastic remarks, etc, instead of being direct in her words. So I think she's F. emotionally abusive.
She is very concerned about how other people view her and the family. A lot of fear of judging. A lot of pride. So bad that she would rather turn against me for "Shaming the family" rather than see why I chose this drastic action, when i chose to divorce.
She does not seem to be an adventurous nor curious person, unlike me. i don't see her coming up with new hobbies or interests. Never. she's a very boring person.
I don't know how she organises her finances and appointments, since we don't talk to each other much at all.
What do you think? Is she ISFJ? or ISFP?
(fyi, i think my dad is ENFJ)