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    Senior Member prplchknz's Avatar
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    Default I can not relate to ESFJs

    Don't get me wrong I like them, I just have a hard time relating to them. It's like what they want to talk about and what I want to talk about are very different things, and I think we bore each other. And we both end up being offended for different reasons, it's like how do I relate to someone I have barely anything in common with? Also what types do you find in general having a hard time relating to?
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    perhaps you could compliment them on their more admirable qualities. I don't relate well to ESFJs either, but much of this has to do with the fact that they care about other people so much (as opposed to being a selfish bastard like me lol), so I compliment them on this. also, a healthy ESFJ will usually be interested to here about you and your experiences if they like you. if you have any sort of social hobbies (hosting parties, shopping, various friend involved activities), you're likely to strike a common chord or at least peak their interests.

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    my esfj mother has to show me everything she bought
    and go into detail about each individual item, from what
    the store clerk's selling spiel was to how the product was
    made and what made it good enough for her to buy.

    sometimes i'm wonder if she's convincing herself out of
    buyer's remorse. it's funny when i'm not busy. and i
    sort of just tune in and out.
    every normal man must be tempted, at times,
    to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag,
    and begin slitting throats.
    h.l. mencken

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    You have 3 choices:

    1) If you find someone boring, unrelateable, and offensive, avoid them and know that you're doing the right thing.
    2) Challenge them head on. Battle with them and attempt to change their mind/ways.
    3) Attempt to understand and relate to them better by spending more time with them, and talking to them in a non-antagonistic/non-condescending/we're-both-just-people way.

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    I don't find them offensive. That's the problem I just find them boring and uninteresting, so I can't activley hate them. I don't care about changing their minds,
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    I don't find them offensive. That's the problem I just find them boring and uninteresting, so I can't activley hate them. I don't care about changing their minds,
    So you have a bleeding heart?

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    no, i don't have a bleeding heart.
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Oh, well, I don't understand why this concerns you.

    *waits for you to say "I'm not concerned"*


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    because I live with an ESFJ currently
    In no likes experiment.

    that is all

    i dunno what else to say so

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    Yeah I don't get the feeling that you really want to change things. Just complain.

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