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    NFJs can also be pretty clingy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    Okay, now I must propose a question. After all this talk about female ISTPs, who apparently behave like tomboys, does anyone know of any male ESFJs? If so, how do they behave?

    (And I mean male ESFJs who are really ESFJs, not Nocturne. )

    EDIT: This isn't a joke topic. I'm really interested in some perspective.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Randomnity View Post
    I live with a male ESFJ (my guess only). He's gay though which I guess could have an impact on the "masculine" thing....though he is definitely pretty masculine in some ways. What would you like to know?

    What would I like to know? His phone number and physical dimensions could be a start.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mort Belfry View Post
    What would I like to know? His phone number and physical dimensions could be a start.
    His phone number's my phone number.

    His physical dimensions are: taller than me, heavier than me, and wider than me.

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    I know two male ESFJ's. Other one is really strong J and other one is really strong Fe. They are both not at all femine but friendly, smiling, organizing, people-oriented and responsible people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cdal233 View Post
    My experience with male xSFJ's is that they are heavily influenced by the stereotypes of how a male should act, which contradicts their natural behavior This seems to make them put up a heavy front of masculinity... which tends to fade once they let you into their world.

    But, if you are hanging out with anyone new, or in a situation they don't feel particularly comfortable with, you see this over-masculine front come back. This could be just the selective sample of young male xSFJ's in my life, but I have have definitely noticed this trend to exist.
    getting to know me is very similar. in fact all my closest friends are women just for this reason

    Fe is a real pain sometimes

    my best male friend is an ESFJ

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    I know one. He's really into classic rock and treating women like objects.
    Christ, what an imagination I've got!

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    i only met a female one but according to thde esfj portriat they are supposed to be very "manly" and are football players and such... but are still traditional, boring people

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    Quote Originally Posted by hotmale View Post
    Male ESFJs always seem to play up the male stereotype to extreme degrees- the flittering philanderer- the sexual machismo etc. They have a good sense of humor and have a sensitive side they only display towards women, but around men, they're pretty competitive.
    I wouldn't call them philanderers... but the two male ESFJs I know of do play up on the machismo thing... The younger one is competitive when dealing with males, but a total pushover when it comes to females... The other one works in the same lab as I (same age). The competitiveness is less extreme, but he does throw compliments towards women more than to my liking.

    Quote Originally Posted by Randomnity View Post
    I've noticed that, actually...aggression and confidence/hostility/bravado, but to the people they care about they're all cuddly and sickeningly clingy.
    +1

    Actually now that I think of it, the female ESFJ I know has the cuddly part but not the aggressive part...so maybe stereotypes can be a factor.
    How Si deals with gender roles I suppose... certain standards they have to live up to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nightning View Post
    I wouldn't call them philanderers... but the two male ESFJs I know of do play up on the machismo thing... The younger one is competitive when dealing with males, but a total pushover when it comes to females... The other one works in the same lab as I (same age). The competitiveness is less extreme, but he does throw compliments towards women more than to my liking.
    my friend is very much like this.he no longer competes with me though.

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