Hello Typology Central! It's been a while, hasn't it?
So. I've started dating an ISTJ (almost 2 months) and it is unlike anything I've ever experienced. I have a lot of trouble understanding him and what he wants out of this relationship, so I was hoping I'd be able to get some advice and information.
In my past relationships, communication was a major factor as well as a connection or friendship. In this relationship, it feels like it isn't that important to him. There are a lot of moments spent in silence. He doesn't mind that we don't always connect or have meaningful conversations. He isn't bothered by any of these things but they confuse me to no end. Sometimes I wonder if he isn't telling me something, he isn't being himself or he doesn't trust me.
I've tried talking to him about it but he says he's fine, he's happy just to be with me. On the first layer we seem to be working well. We make each other happy and enjoy each others company. We have a lot in common and agree on most things. But I feel like I'm missing a fundamental thing, there's something that I'm not getting. Maybe we want/expect different things? (Maybe in part because we're "opposites.")
To ISTJs, what do you want out of relationships? Why do you think he acts this way? What can I do to make this work?
To other types, what is your experience with ISTJs in relationships?
Much appreciated, and have a great day.