I am an INTP/INTJ woman who needs constructive advice regarding an important ESFJ/ESTJ in my life. I find him to be very caring and supportive which I am starting to warm up to, but generally the thing that drives me up the wall is when he asks me stuff repetitively like: "are you ok? what wrong? everything ok? somethings wrong, tell me, please tell me, ur upset, did i do something?, lets talk about it, you can talk to me, tell me, tell me".
The first few times I respond politely and thank him for asking. But he doesn't stop, so it starts to bug me and I tend to become really firm and say "please stop asking, I am fine, I already told you so and so times". I end up really irritated and stop responding altogether. I know he is a sensitive person and that my final unhappy response ends up upsetting him. But how else can I get him to understand that I can't stand the incessant questioning or general repetitive conversation. I really care about him and want us to have lesser disappointing experiences, but I don't know what to do. Please advice considering our types. Thank you