Hi there, I am an ISTJ working in consultancy. I have a coach, which is standard at my organization, who helps me with my personal development during my job. We talk about once a month. I am myself always involved with developing myself and this goes okay.
She is an ESFJ.
The problem I face is that I feel that she is not really able to help me further. I realize she feels this also, the conversations we have usually last around two hours and at times feel awkward. She is not really pushing me to change points of views and I feel that the problems I come across in my work, are mine to solve myself. Another problem is that she asks me what I expect from here and then I think, you are the coach so you tell me how we set this up. She is really nice and caring but I fear that we don't make enough progress.
I really wonder how she should coach me in order to be effective. I would like someone to tell me point blank what they think and point out negatives, that stimulates my thinking and will to change things. Since I am constantly involved with developing myself, maybe sometimes there is no need for a coach. however I do like to talk to her, but we have come at a point where is getting a bit strange.
Anyways, how could I change the situation? Can ISTJs be coached on career and stuff and what should one do?
Bye hope to hear from you