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    Default isfj's being boring

    ok so I've read and get the impression in everyday life that people tend to find us isfj's pretty boring. Why is this?

    I'm a guy in college, and I know I'm not the most exciting person, but I love to go out and have a good time. Also, my friends enjoy my company and I'm generally considered the goofy one out of my friends...so what makes us so dull?

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    .... but have you Keg Stand'd before????

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    Hmm. My roommate's an ISFJ, and she's one of the funniest people I know. Not boring in the least. ISTJs get the boring rap more often, but I know some really entertaining ISTJs, too, including my sister.

    Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong people?
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    I don't think ISFJs are boring. I think they tend to not have as much energy as most but I don't think they're boring.
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    Any type has the capability to be boring.

    I know a couple ISFJs quite well...and only one of them bores me to tears.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tallulah View Post
    Hmm. My roommate's an ISFJ, and she's one of the funniest people I know. Not boring in the least. ISTJs get the boring rap more often, but I know some really entertaining ISTJs, too, including my sister.

    Maybe you're hanging out with the wrong people?
    He should hang out with people who DO find him boring?

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    seriously though, ISFJs only get pegged as boring typologically, where their overwhelming population superiority doesn't figure and they get related to ENTPs (so exciting it's tiring) and ENFPs (so much talk your ears wish they were assholes) on "fair" ground.

    ISFJ profiles are boring because they don't reference joan of arc or einstein, the ISFJs themselves are another matter.


    I actually think they're way less boring than a lot of extroverts because as introvers I get a lot more control over what we end up talking about and it tends to be a lot more personal when they do get to talking.
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    Blame the poor SJ descriptions. The SJ descriptions just don't sound interesting compared to the other temperaments. The SJ descriptions, most likely were written by intuitive types, not SJs themselves.

    Add introversion into the mix and you get someone who isn't so inclined to act all wild and crazy. Some people wrongly think that if you're not all wild and crazy, you're not very fun.

    I think just the sheer commonality of this type, makes it somehow less interesting. Change the S to N, and suddenly you've got a rare personality type that's highly sought after.
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    My sis is an ISFJ and she is soooooooo funny and awesome.
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    i dunno where the ISFJ boring stereotype comes from. it's stupid. possibly from typologists who just superficially met ISFJs and thought you were quiet and nice, and used their brilliant theorizing to figure out that you are sensible, caring, and reliable, which somehow turned into "boring." boo to that though, i love the ISFJs i know and don't think they're boring at all. i know one with cutting humor. those i know do generally have a serene and steady demeanor, but i personally see that as an appealing thing. mileage may vary, i guess.

    Quote Originally Posted by murkrow View Post
    and ENFPs (so much talk your ears wish they were assholes)
    HEY. i suppose you guys think we blabber on, lol, cause we don't say things that are "productive".

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    It's probably an unfair stereotype to paint any type with such a broad-brush descriptor as "boring." From my own experience, ISFJs are not boring in the sense that they don't like to go out and have a good time, or can't act silly and goof off. In fact, I've found the opposite to be true - under the right circumstances, an ISFJ can be the life of the party.

    That said, I was married to an ISFJ for three years and yes, by the end of our relationship I did find her to be boring.

    • She had a tendency to relate the same stories of her past to me over, and over, and over, without regard to how many times I'd already heard them. It got to a point where I could accurately predict which story she was about to tell, based on the situation at hand.
    • She was passionate about her interests, but they all bored me to no end (interior decorating/home remodeling, fashion, reality TV, pets, kids).
    • I found her to be somewhat superficial and simplistic (not simpleminded...just very straightforward) in her thought processes. That made deep/intimate conversation between us difficult.
    • Probably the most bothersome thing for me was her difficulty opening up to new experiences and ideas. Basically she would decide beforehand whether or not she was going to like something she wasn't familiar with (for instance, it took me 2 years to talk her into trying sushi). I found this to be very irritating and, well, boring.


    Bear in mind this is a limited sample, but it may give you some idea as to why certain people (NTs especially, I would guess) hold these views toward ISFJs.
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