As for why you should believe I am an ESFJ, well fuctionally it just fits. Also it was a type I had previously overlooked, mainly because of bias and 'special snowflake' syndrome that floats around with theories like these.
In any case even though I normally dislike them I recently came across the personalitypage description and this jumped out at me in the section marked personal growth:
ESFJs who have a strongly expressed Introverted Sensing function will find they also enjoy these very special gifts:
Very sensitive to how any situation might be inwardly affecting another person
Able to see the potential in any human environment for enabling the comfort and safety of others
A flair for dramatic illustration and story telling which makes them excellent teachers of the young
Able to make strong, people oriented administrative decisions
A skill with fashion and decoration which makes people feel good about themselves
Able to see outside the "square" and adjust their values to the facts of a situation
I dont perhaps fit all the criteria here, such as decorations, but it does feel very relatable.