I have a guy friend who is an ISFJ. We've worked together closely for the last 2 years or so, and as a result have become pretty tight, to the point now where I treat him like a brother. Now mind you, I'm one of 11 and I grew up with tough love- not abuse, but the kind of relationship where I'll crack a joke on you before I say "I love you".
Well this guy, despite him being one of 5, and actually spent some time involved in street pharmaceuticals, says "I love you man".....dude had me like . I NEVER had another dude say that to me! I didn't reply and don't you know he was hurt over that!! He told me later that he was actually considering not dealing with me anymore over that.
Well after that it has been more hurt feelings from time to time due to my wisecracking. Sometimes I feel that I'll say or do something that will put him over and he'll kill me in some emotion filled rage. I'm not sure. But is this the normal interaction for an ISFJ male with other males who aren't so emotionally outward? I mean I'm not a harsh guy, but if I like you I will joke on you, especially if you are a guy.
Has anybody have similar experiences?
BTW he's not gay.