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    Quote Originally Posted by Donna Cecilia View Post
    You are right. I was.

    That kind of behaviour enters in the category of mind games for me.

    If somebody is offended because of something that I have said or done, I´d rather have that person telling me so, instead of changing his attitude towards me and (trying to) force me into figuring out what was wrong there. I appreciate sincere communication, and see it as a key element to make a relationship work.
    It'd also be mind games on his behalf for acting distant and then childishly sending an e-mail 'If you are going to ignore me. Your loss.' when he should have discussed it with her in the first place. It makes no logical sense to not address it, and the delivery was just inappropriate.

    Normally I don't dispense this opinion, but it really does sound like this person was just trying to break up in the first place but did not have the guts to do so himself. "hoping I would respond that way?" - What kind of response is that? It almost sounds as if he was waiting for you to say: Break up with me before he could proceed to do so.

    If what's been writing is true. You really didn't deserve that treatment at all. I don't even think it's type-related. He was just extremely insensitive.

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    Good God, who knew ENTJs were so needy?
    ISTJ's, it hurts a lot when you don't realize the way you manipulate people's emotions by being so standoffish. Just remember that it takes two to tango and when you don't learn to step in tandem that the choreography falls flat. Retracting your feelings for people is worse than never initializing them. Taking a peek beyond your own world view is not really as scary as you think... It might actually benefit you in the end.
    Why are you lecturing ISTJs? It was ONE ISTJ who broke your heart. In fact, even that isn't true - you broke your own heart by idealizing someone and expecting him to plug the gap in your life. You smothered him, then you panicked when he withdrew, then you tried to manipulate him into chasing you. Which part of this wasn't bound to fail?

    Taking it out on ISTJs won't help you to fix what's wrong with your approach. You were clearly incompatible, so it was never going to work out. But you can learn from this by reading the signs and learning what not to do. You won't do that till you stop blaming him/ISTJs though.
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    Aquaria Array mrcockburn's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Morgan Le Fay View Post
    Good God, who knew ENTJs were so needy?
    I did. I nearly had to get a restraining order on one.
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