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    How important is it to you that your significant other cleans?

    If you left for the day and returned to the surprise of your entire house being scrubbed top-to-bottom and perfectly organized by your significant other, would you get all emotional about it (whether you admitted it or not)?

    How would you feel if you lived with a significant other who didn't ever clean and was comfortable living in clutter?

    Would you mind being the only one to pick up around the house or would this begin to wear at you over time?

    Does watching your significant other clean get you all hot and bothered?

    Do you have a thing for Naughty French Maid outfits because of the obvious association with cleaning?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    How important is it to you that your significant other cleans?
    Only as important as what we've agreed upon.

    If you left for the day and returned to the surprise of your entire house being scrubbed top-to-bottom and perfectly organized by your significant other, would you get all emotional about it (whether you admitted it or not)?
    Yes, I would be pretty happy about it.
    How would you feel if you lived with a significant other who didn't ever clean and was comfortable living in clutter?
    Hmm... I think that would bother me and I'd probably ask if I could declutter the space and if they said no then I'd just learn how to ignore it (I have done this before).

    Would you mind being the only one to pick up around the house or would this begin to wear at you over time?
    If we agreed to this then no it would not bother me. If we didn't agree to this then yes it would bother me.

    Does watching your significant other clean get you all hot and bothered?
    lol I don't think so but I'd probably get hot and bothered if my SO was fixing/repairing things around the house.

    Do you have a thing for Naughty French Maid outfits because of the obvious association with cleaning?
    Yes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    How important is it to you that your significant other cleans?
    I prefer there be a sense of equality - she does A, I do B, she does C, I do D, etc...

    Although, I'm fully expecting to end up doing the larger share I'll also admit that, except when it comes to the kitchen, I can be kind of messy myself. Not dirty, mind you, but cluttery.

    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    If you left for the day and returned to the surprise of your entire house being scrubbed top-to-bottom and perfectly organized by your significant other, would you get all emotional about it (whether you admitted it or not)?
    Yes I would. I would spend the rest of the evening devoted to her so doing something that incredibly sweet and thoughtful

    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    How would you feel if you lived with a significant other who didn't ever clean and was comfortable living in clutter?
    It would annoy me not only because of the mess but because I know that I'll eventually end up nagging at her all the time and I'll get upset with myself for becoming one of those people that nag

    All that being said, it would also depend on WHY she never cleaned up. If she was one of those artist/scientist types who sealed themselves away to throw themselves into their work, then I would get an odd sort of glee in picking up after them and waiting on them as it would then make me feel like the dotting husband in the relationship who's caring for his soon-to-be-famous wife

    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    Would you mind being the only one to pick up around the house or would this begin to wear at you over time?
    Wear over time. As I said before, I imagine I'm going to end up being the one to do the larger share but she does need to pitch in a little (except for of course the reason I gave above)

    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    Does watching your significant other clean get you all hot and bothered?
    YES. Oh the things I think about as I watch her dusting or vacuuming.....

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    Do you have a thing for Naughty French Maid outfits because of the obvious association with cleaning?
    Among other reasons, an emphatic yes. If she throws in a German accent, then I'm toast: I am officially wrapped around her finger for the rest of the evening
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    Quote Originally Posted by tinker683 View Post
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    Okay, that's it. Scott, I don't know why you're pretending to be Tinker, but it's starting to get really surreal and creepy.

    If you indeed are not Scott and there exists a Scott clone out there, I demand you come to California and get naked with me immediately.
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    So, would you agree that it's not the clutter that would bother you so much as it is the fact that your significant other "broke the rules" by not pitching in as you thought was the agreement?

    I'm just trying to get some idea of the motivation behind SJs being so preoccupied with cleaning, I'm positive there's more to it than just wanting a pretty living space. ^_^
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    How important is it to you that your significant other cleans?

    A lot. I would be delighted to find a SO with enough time on his schedule to clean, because I can do so only in the weekends.

    If you left for the day and returned to the surprise of your entire house being scrubbed top-to-bottom and perfectly organized by your significant other, would you get all emotional about it (whether you admitted it or not)?

    If getting emotional is rewarding him with his favourite meal, or a body massage, I would.

    How would you feel if you lived with a significant other who didn't ever clean and was comfortable living in clutter?

    I can´t see myself living with someone like that.

    Would you mind being the only one to pick up around the house or would this begin to wear at you over time?

    It will surely begin to wear me over time. Having no time to do it means more things to clean when I am able to do so.

    Does watching your significant other clean get you all hot and bothered?

    No. For me, it is something that has to be done, not a prelude to sex.

    Do you have a thing for Naughty French Maid outfits because of the obvious association with cleaning?

    No.

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    I will answer with ideas expressed by my pet ISTJ, since he is not a member here

    How important is it to you that your significant other cleans?

    he doesn't want to have to do all of the cleaning, so I suppose it's fairly important that I pull my own weight in that area

    If you left for the day and returned to the surprise of your entire house being scrubbed top-to-bottom and perfectly organized by your significant other, would you get all emotional about it (whether you admitted it or not)?

    Last time I cleaned the house from top to bottom and shampooed the carpets and everything as a surprise he was so happy that he took me out to dinner and doted on me all evening long

    How would you feel if you lived with a significant other who didn't ever clean and was comfortable living in clutter?

    I've heard that he's broken up with people for being too slobby... he fears germs

    Would you mind being the only one to pick up around the house or would this begin to wear at you over time?

    see above...

    Does watching your significant other clean get you all hot and bothered?

    If he sees me cleaning, he usually can't keep his hands off me for a while and then helps out with the cleaning himself... that might mean yes

    Do you have a thing for Naughty French Maid outfits because of the obvious association with cleaning?



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    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure View Post
    Okay, that's it. Scott, I don't know why you're pretending to be Tinker, but it's starting to get really surreal and creepy.

    If you indeed are not Scott and there exists a Scott clone out there, I demand you come to California and get naked with me immediately.



    :blushing:

    :redface:

    Oh wow...do I really resemble your ISFJ that much? Don't take this the wrong way, but I'm glad to know that I remind you of someone who has really desirable qualities to you. It's always nice to know that there are women out there who appreciate guys like me

    Sadly, I am not Scott nor am I a clone. I've seen pictures of Scott on your profile and I look *nothing* like him I'm afraid. Thank you though for your comments, it definately made my morning

    Quote Originally Posted by Pettycure
    So, would you agree that it's not the clutter that would bother you so much as it is the fact that your significant other "broke the rules" by not pitching in as you thought was the agreement?

    I'm just trying to get some idea of the motivation behind SJs being so preoccupied with cleaning, I'm positive there's more to it than just wanting a pretty living space. ^_^
    There is.

    There is some truth to the idea of her having "broke the rules" as a clean house is something that just needs to get done. That being said, for me anyway, a clean house is pleasant for me as I find a clean house to not only to me aesthetically pleasing, but also emotionally pleasing as well. A clean house gives me a sense of a organization, safety, and comfort. Also, I consider it a 'duty' of sorts that when my SO comes home from a stressful day that she knows that she can come home to a clean house that smells nice

    All that being said, as I stated before, my apartment usually has a lot of clutter around here and there. Most of that is because I work a lot and am usually too tired to get some cleaning done and some of it is just because I live alone, there isn't any feeling of a "need" to be 100% cleaned up.

    That of course changes dramatically if I'm expecting company
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    How important is it to you that your significant other cleans?

    It's pretty important. They don't have to be OCD like me but not lazy either.

    If you left for the day and returned to the surprise of your entire house being scrubbed top-to-bottom and perfectly organized by your significant other, would you get all emotional about it (whether you admitted it or not)?

    I wouldn't get emotional, I would simply say "It's about fucking time."

    How would you feel if you lived with a significant other who didn't ever clean and was comfortable living in clutter?

    Stressed

    Would you mind being the only one to pick up around the house or would this begin to wear at you over time?

    It definitely wears at me over time.

    Does watching your significant other clean get you all hot and bothered?

    No, but if naked probably.

    Do you have a thing for Naughty French Maid outfits because of the obvious association with cleaning?

    No.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinker683 View Post
    There is some truth to the idea of her having "broke the rules" as a clean house is something that just needs to get done. That being said, for me anyway, a clean house is pleasant for me as I find a clean house to not only to me aesthetically pleasing, but also emotionally pleasing as well. A clean house gives me a sense of a organization, safety, and comfort. Also, I consider it a 'duty' of sorts that when my SO comes home from a stressful day that she knows that she can come home to a clean house that smells nice


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