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    Default Need help with an ISTJ Male

    I am an ENFP who really fancies this ISTJ male- he has such an amazing brain and a genuine smile...

    I know he is attracted to me- however, we hardly get to see each other and as an ENFP, I can't stand that- dunno how the ISTJs feel its no big deal but please help me understand how do I figure out where I stand with him when our communication is pretty much about 3 emails a week.

    I would really like to give this relationship a try but as an ENFP female, I know I can come across very full-on to some guys, esp ISTJs and I need to understand how to be me yet not scare him away.

    Thank you all.

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    just start texting light banter back and forth... my ISTJ still does that and we've been together over a year and a half now

    also, try to get some more face time with him... it'll give you a better feel of what needs to be done
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    Quote Originally Posted by whatever View Post
    just start texting light banter back and forth... my ISTJ still does that and we've been together over a year and a half now

    also, try to get some more face time with him... it'll give you a better feel of what needs to be done
    Have tried both, unsuccessfully... I texted him and got a reply 2 days later and then no reply to my reply- been a week! Its better on mail, fortunately.

    Been trying to hint at a catch up but he doesn't seem to bite- do I need to put it in flashing lights and say "I wanna see you again"? Would that not completely push an ISTJ male away?

    Thanks whatever!

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