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[SJ] Being an SJ teen

Atomic Fiend

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INxJs teens are usually too oblivious to notice that they have it bad. They're all burdened with the full-time job of following dominant Ni.

I disagree. We notice, we just either never cared enough to begin with or got over it once we realized it.
 

Haphazard

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I disagree. We notice, we just either never cared enough to begin with or got over it once we realized it.

Well, I guess it's all about perspective. Many view it as oblivious, though the INxJ usually views what most people consider 'blivious' as not being important.

The point is, save your pity for someone else.
 

Mondo

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INxJs teens are usually too oblivious to notice that they have it bad. They're all burdened with the full-time job of following dominant Ni.

I think that only applies to INTJ's.

INFJ's tend to not be as oblivious due to Fe- at least the INFJs I know.
 

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I think that only applies to INTJ's.

INFJ's tend to not be as oblivious due to Fe- at least the INFJs I know.

Not quite as oblivious, but still not all there. Fe isn't fully developed as a teen and Ni is still a bitch.

INFJs ain't called ethereal for nothing.
 

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There are boatloads of SJs who get melancholy with their place in the world/social scheme of life, especially SFJs.
 

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INxJs teens are usually too oblivious to notice that they have it bad. They're all burdened with the full-time job of following dominant Ni.

I tend to agree with Haphazard. Whether they liked me or not I didn't care. I was happy to be immersed in my world of thoughts. This is not uncommon with Ni or Ti dominance. People with Si are at least more grounded than Ni or Ti-Ne!
 

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Ugh, stereotypes abound in this thread. N/S isn't about intelligence or open-mindedness. But I don't feel like arguing that point anymore with people.


I teach high school, so I am around teens all day long. I don't really think most teens are quite ready to be typed because they're still individuating. That said, I would say that teens SEEM mostly SP. That's based on my very limited interaction and I don't think it reflects reality. But I don't come across exceptional numbers of kids who are obviously Ns.
 

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Most people my age (high school) are either NT's, or SP..few are SJ's, and very very few are NFs..
 

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I remember one clear SJ in my high school who pretty much ran the school. He was very mature for his age, wore a shirt and dress slacks every day even though we had no dress code, and was president of the honor society. He was chummy with the principal and the higher-ups and patrolled the hallways putting the underclassmen in line. He hated any kind of disruption or tomfoolery. Wasn't a particularly fun guy.
Ha, this is such a stereotype but it was true. He was an extreme ESTJ, though.

I hated being an SJ teen because I was so much more serious than everyone else, and I couldn't stand the SP fun. I'd be the first one to tell on someone cheating during a test. I was a goody-goody.
SPs think you're a bore, and the NTs and NFs only tolerate you because you work well (SJ band leader/newspaper editor/art club secretary etc). I was very focused on doing well in school and getting good grades. Of course, I didn't fit in.

Don't SP's pretty much dominate high school social scenes? I'm sure they're responsible for lots of high school misery. They drive fashion trends and what's cool to wear, what kind of stuff you should have in your locker.
 

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I remember one clear SJ in my high school who pretty much ran the school. He was very mature for his age, wore a shirt and dress slacks every day even though we had no dress code, and was president of the honor society. He was chummy with the principal and the higher-ups and patrolled the hallways putting the underclassmen in line. He hated any kind of disruption or tomfoolery. Wasn't a particularly fun guy.
Ha, this is such a stereotype but it was true. He was an extreme ESTJ, though.

I hated being an SJ teen because I was so much more serious than everyone else, and I couldn't stand the SP fun. I'd be the first one to tell on someone cheating during a test. I was a goody-goody.
SPs think you're a bore, and the NTs and NFs only tolerate you because you work well (SJ band leader/newspaper editor/art club secretary etc). I was very focused on doing well in school and getting good grades. Of course, I didn't fit in. I seemed much more mature than everyone else.

Don't SP's pretty much dominate high school social scenes? I'm sure they're responsible for lots of high school misery. They drive fashion trends and what's cool to wear, what kind of stuff you should have in your locker.

I went to a private, all-boys prep school for high school, so we were less prone to this sort of social stratification, but I was considered very weird in high school. Of course, I cultivated this persona to an extent, since I intensely disliked most of my schoolmates. The flamboyant, outrageous side of my ESFJ was pretty dominant then. I am fairly sure a lot of the homophobes there thought I was gay, and the more uptight people probably hated my big mouth.
 

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Don't SP's pretty much dominate high school social scenes? I'm sure they're responsible for lots of high school misery. They drive fashion trends and what's cool to wear, what kind of stuff you should have in your locker.

Oh, I think it's more like extroverts dominate the social scene. There's plenty of ES_J's in there. They're the ones who actually care about the social status. The ES_P's are just trying to get drunk/stoned/laid/thrown out of a moving vehicle as many times as possible. ;)
 

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This is quite literally true in all respects for a friend of mine.

OH MAN!!!!!!!!!! Definitely not a "scene" for me. Unless I can sit down and laugh my ass off at all of those crazy people! :devil::D
 

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I think the SJ crowd is more prone to join student government, NHS... pretty much any student organization with leadership positions involved. I would have been like that, were it not for my unpopularity. (of course, that didn't keep me from running for things... I would have felt bad if I didn't. But no one ever voted for me.) I hung out with the N(erd) crowd, and felt pretty much the exact same way that dnivera did. (you are my kin! bonding moment!):hug:
 
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i think there must be a lot of SJ teens around, you just don't realize they're SJ's. these guys follow norms right? well at a young age, you're probably still trying to establish what a norm is. i had a crush on an ISTJ, so obviously i met one :D. she's your hard working type, studies 6 hours a day, training to be an accountant. how typical is that?
 
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