Ok, well, I'm not an STJ, but both my parents are: Mom-ESTJ Dad-ISTJ. Being their kid is (I have no word for it ). I mean, my mom cares too much and my dad cares too little.
And this for me is unbelievable. I can't really stand my mother and my dad doesnt really help me fight her off.
He can't stand her screaming, her bossy/need to do something (can't stay home) personality, her weird beliefs and her altogether. (me neither)
She can't stand his non talking ways, laid back personality, his strong prejudice, and most of him altogether. (im 'OK', with this...)
(that's them summed up)
Why are they still a pair? I have no clue myself.
I think my mother is crazy. She freaks about everything I do. Which is not much, thanks to her. (me) Leaving the house makes her go haywire, and if I am at home I cant be in my room for too long. I have to leave it once and a while to "show my face". Sleeping over at someones house would be a huge problem, even going to a friends house for a couple of hours is---yeah, I cant even do that.
I think my dad doesnt care. He goes to work, comes back at three (in the afternoon) and expects to do nothing til he crashes at 11. His main thing is relaxing. If you even ask him to do anything it's such a hassel. He's actually a very selfish person and is somewhat narcissistic. He doesnt even talk to me unless it has something to do with him.
Can you explain why they are like this? Is this unhealthy??
I'm sick of my mom, and im OK with my dad, but just recently I read about an INFJ having problems with her ISTJ father, and I'm like, "Come on!" hopefully I wont just distance myself. I want everything to go smoothly, like a normal-ish family. But with these two, the only thing close to a normal familiy is my grandma.