I've been infatuated with her since I first met her. I wasn't actually dancing then but she had suggested it to me as a hobby (I had told her that I was desperately looking for a hobby as I work two jobs and feeling like I was going to go insane if I didn't get an outlet). Hoping I'd learn something new and possibly get closer to her, I accepted.
Well a few months and many dance lessons later, in November, her and I went to social function together which was actually the first dance her and I went to together. You must understand that this was the first time in well...forever...that I've gone to such a function on the arm of a beautiful woman and that the fact that it was with her had me practically levitating into the ballroom.
Well during the social, while we were taking a break, she started to explain to me how much she had forgotten (she used to compete with her then fiance all the time but when they broke up she had stopped altogether) and how much it bothered her not just that she had forgotten so much but also how much of being in a ballroom again reminded her of her ex. She then looked over at me with this pained expression on her face and said, "You need to say something now." which I'm assuming she said because I had been so quiet most of the evening.
I did in fact have something I wanted to say but I didn't say it because at the time I didn't want her to feel awkward and weird, particularily at a point when I suspected she felt quite vulnerable. I had wanted to tell her how I was having a fantastic time, how it was really nice being at a dance where I actually know what I'm doing and that I'm there with a beautiful woman (I was a geek in high school and girls weren't really interested in me). But most importantly I wanted to tell her how glad I was just to be there with her.
But as I said, I didn't want her to feel awkward and weird around me, so instead I offered words of encouragement and support and that seemed ok to her (from what I could tell anyway). I hated though that I couldn't do or say much of anything that would cheer her up as I was on cloud 9 at the time and wanted her to feel the same.
Well, near the end of the evening my dance instructor (who was hosting this function) offered a "Christmas Gift" sale of her private lessons. When she offered that, I immediately thought it would be perfect for Rebecca (my dance partner). I knew how important dancing was to her but more importantly (and I hope this makes sense or comes out coherent) but I wanted her to think of dancing as being something that was hers again, you know? Something that she could have by herself and that she was allowed to enjoy again for her own sake and that she didn't need me or her ex or anyone for that matter to love doing it. Does that make any sense?
Lastly, I also wanted to do something that said, "I care about how you feel" without having to actually verbalize it. At that point in time I hadn't told her how I felt about her.
So I did. I bought her 8 private lessons (which came out to a price tag of about $385) and when I gave it to her, I tried stressing to her that I had purchased these just for her and that, after she offered me to come join her, that while I would have loved to have joined her if she really wanted me there, she did not need to feel like it was for the both of us - that it was just for her.
In retrospect, while I don't think I did anything wrong per se, I do think I made her feel very guilty - like she was then obligated to give me something in return. I tried stressing to her that she didn't need too but still...I can't help but wonder if what I did was inappropriate.
I know what it is you were trying to say in your original post and while I don't believe my intentions were the same as the OP's (no matter how snarky he was just being), I still wanted your thoughts on the matter and "gift purchasing" is often one of the ways I like to express affection.
Also, sorry to gush and go off on a tangent like that. I have a tendency to be very long winded when I'm discussing personal matters like that (you need only glance over my blog to see that).