Uhh, Te collides with Ne that much? I'd say being an SJ hits NPs more so. My Te hits the Feelers the most. I'm just so intensely focused on my duties of the moment and my daily needs that I don't see Ne as much of anything except to serve Te's structure.
As for eating from a fork from another plate or a sip from a glass, wtf? Why are you equating such minute things with ISTJs? Just because...2 or 3 of them above me don't do it? I'd be all for eating from the plate of my SO or drinking out of their glass, because I'd find it romantic. I'd only be concerned about germs if they were sick.
I know I'm an ISTJ, but I'm sick of being lobbed into a group of these conformist dorks. Maybe I'm lucky to have spent a lot of time around NTs or it's who I am, but I have very intense reasoning for what I do, and I'm constantly re-analyzing my motivations to make sure that they are practical and human. Te is wonderful. It's amazing, and I'm probably 95% T, but I'm painfully aware that any thinker-related skill I have is only something necessary to sustain life, and everything outside of that is from me, the human being.
Grr, I hate venting and/or ranting but I've spent a lot of time honing my Si and Te, and I refuse to have those skills be treated as some ignorant stereotype just because people refuse to stop and try to understand an opposing point of view.