I cried at my gmom's funeral this year........I think the overall 'sadness' of the occasion overwhelmed me. The whole time we were there, and I saw her lifeless body, it didn't affect me. But to see my sisters crying, my mom's reaction..it took me there.
Otherwise, I'm kind of fascinated with people crying.
Woah...not well. Hehe, not terribly, it just makes me feel pretty awkward. I have sympathy, though, and if I care about you I'll try my best to "help out", however that works. Not totally adept at that, though.
I don't know about my own crying. Let's see, usually at that point, I'm frustrated and feel hopeless. It's not as if I feel ashamed about crying, I just feel alone/betrayed and don't want to be around most people. But then I end up trying to reach out to the right people, it seems, to bring me back to my good old self.
I am interested in SJs, maybe more than other types. I just don't like physically communicating and interacting with them. I'll give you that, though, a lot of non-SJs (especially INFPs and INFJs) act like it's all them against the rest of the SJ world.
I rarely cry in front of others. But I am comfortable crying alone. When I need to relieve some stress, I find a quiet place to be alone and let the tears flow. It's a great stress reliever. After a good cry, I feel really great, all the bad emotions are washed away.
As far as when others cry, I am usually comfortable when others cry. It doesn't bother me.
I am comfortable with crying alone and with people I am close to. I really don't like crying in front of people I am not close to.
I am also generally ok with other people crying and will listen, provide comfort if I can, etc. I tend to be uncomfortable with it if I dislike the other person or already generally have an uncomfortable relationship with them.
the shoheen ho of the wind of the west and the lulla lo of the soft sea billow - Alfred Graves
My own crying? - It's very rare that I'll cry in front of other people, almost always it's when I'm alone. Usually it's at some random moment when I'm just thinking about different things and need to cry to get it out of my system. It's also happened before that I've felt the urge to cry but had no idea why ~ I'm not too good at interpreting feelings (my own or others), so sometimes it surprises me that I want/need to cry at that moment.
When others cry? - It makes me feel uncomfortable because I'm not sure what I'm supposed to say or do. I end up very awkwardly patting them on the back or trying to say comforting things in a tone that I'm sure does not sound as "warm" as it could. I sympathize with them, I'll sit there and listen to them, but I'm just not a natural at "comforting" someone who is crying I guess.
I don't cry much. I think the last time I cried was 2+ years ago when my German Shepherd died. When I do cry, I do not like to cry in front of others. Generally I if I get the 'urge' to cry, I can suppress it long enough to get to somewhere private.
When other people cry I get kind of uncomfortable. I don't know what to do or say for them. Nor do I really want to have to do or say anything to help them. I kind of just get quiet, hopefully let someone else deal with the situation and comfort them if possible.
“Everybody has a secret world inside of them. All of the people of the world, I mean everybody. No matter how dull and boring they are on the outside, inside
them they've all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds. Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands maybe.” -Neil Gaiman