And what's bolded- I totally feel you man! Most times, (if you are good) people are oblivious they are being subjected to Te. It's a balancing act; You exert it but don't be a prick as you go about it. I'd say you have to have the ability to talk to people, though. Raz, you don't sound like you are extremely introverted. Same here. Si does give you an ability to deal with people (based on experiences- so you gotta be in those situations), so if you are able to demonstrate confidence with that ability, you go it! The challenge of most ISTJs, though, is that they aren't good at the interim stuff. They either can't, or don't want to deal with other people oustide of what's necessary. Then when it's time to make the demands, they assume that for some reason or another people will listen, and if the people don't they try to force it. Like a boss- he may make that 'You do it because I'm the boss' talk to try to get you to do something, but outside of those commands he's not showing himself to be a true leader. So people aren't going to give him any mind when he's trying to Te others around. INTJs can also be the same way.