OK, I really do not intend to offend anyone, I am just really trying to understand how to fix this problem, or to just find out of it is even fixable. I just want to understand!
i've noticed with a particular ISTJ:
If friends decide to go out/do something that an ISTJ doesn't want to do/doesn't enjoy doing... why do they still tag along?? He still insists on coming, and while he is there, he is noticeably and obviously not having any fun. He doesnt try to have fun, he just has it made up in his mind that it is not entertaining, therefore it will never be entertaining. For instance, going to a friends house where he consistently does not enjoy going to, or going out to clubs or bars which isn't his thing. He never has fun and he doesn't try to, and it brings down the whole group. It's like everything has to stop to make sure that he is having a good time (maybe it's just me wanting him to have a good time). Why does he still insist on coming out if he knows it always ends up the same??
Do other ISTJs relate to this? or is it an introverted thing?
What is going through his mind during is.. could he actually be trying to have fun and I just don't see it?
Ugh...WHY CANT HE JUST MAKE THE BEST OF IT?? If he is already there, why not try and have fun? No one likes to not have fun... I go to things that I do not enjoy but i atleast try and have fun and almost 100% of the time, i do!
Please, what am I missing?