My grandfather was an ISTJ. He truly worshiped my ESFP grandmother. They were together since college and even long periods apart seemed to be nothing for them. I have a big stack of their love letters, letters he held onto and kept in a wooden box that we discovered later after his death.
Whoever said ISTJs can't have an intense romantic side is clearly wrong.
This is true, though no one knows about it apart from our partners. My girlfriend was shocked when I started being romantic because it's not a part of myself that I let others see.
"Knights had no meaning in this game. It wasn't a game for knights."
Seems like ISTJs (if I may generalize from this) are not hard to please then! I would naturally do all this for someone I like...
Then you got a good start. BUT every ISTJ has things that annoy them, things that might be overlooked by you or other types. You may get a reaction from them for something, but you don't know why. Eventually you'll find out, think it's stupid for him to get so caught up on something so small, and come back to this board to post about it. Consider yourself warned.
Hehe, I'm just saying that when I think it's obvious that I'm showing I care about someone, it often looks kind of lacking if judged moment-to-moment or by outward signals. In other words, not a lot of surface feedback for your troubles.
Okay, your topic question:
Nothing wrong with "couple" things, sounds great when in a couple. What do you mean by "practical things done for them?" You mean like having a maid? I don't get this...when I care about someone like this, I honestly don't think much about what she "could be doing for me," I think more about what I could be doing for her. Knowing it's appreciated (big emphasis) is what I'd really want in return.
Last edited by Cimarron; 02-07-2010 at 09:52 AM.
Reason: answering OP
Like I don't like people being late. So I hate the 'be there in 5 minutes' and it's actually 15. So if you are at my house 10:15 instead of 10:05, then you have annoyed me. In your mind, it might be that you are only a few minutes late, and no big deal, but you told me 5 mins but were actually 15. I'd rather you say you'd be 15 minutes late, and let me be mad at that. But to say 5 minutes late and then tack on an extra 10 minutes is lack of preparation and a lie. You know what, in that case, just say you are going to be 20 minutes late and beat it by 5. That actually lessens the damage.
That's a more obvious example.
Personally, I don't like sloppy use of the english language. I would get frustrated when my girlfriend used wrong tenses or just bad grammar. Since she didn't recognize what she said, I'd catch it and inside start to tighten up over it. But she wouldn't know if I didn't bring it up, since I'm an introvert.
Each ISTJs list of things that piss them off is different, so it's something you'll learn over time.