Snow Turtle
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I see nothing wrong with what the ISFJ did. She gave the OP the option and said if the OP didn't want to go she would give it to someone else. It's not like she kidnapped the OP brought him/her to the concert pointed a gun at his/her head and then asked for him/her to pay for it afterward.
Yeah but chances are there is going to be some form of unnecessary resentment arising from the whole situation. It's sort of like "I don't expect you to go, but if you don't then well... our friendship is mostly going to take a little beating"
No offence OP. But it doesn't sound like a particularly healthy friendship there... and while I know you aren't so keen on losing a friend. It might be a good idea to start standing your ground. From what's been written, it's almost as if she's started to take some aspects of you for granted since it's always been that way. Perhaps she's not aware of what sort of impact that system has on other people, that there is a little imbalance in regards to friendship.
Sure. She could end the friendship. But then ask yourself this.
Would someone that values friendship (especially a dedicated ISFJ) discard a friendship so easily?
If she does. Well... I'm sorry to say, but your friendship wasn't that strong in the first place.