My weakness I've realized lately is that I have a hard time expressing myself clearly. Here's what has happened several times and resulted in lots of relationship problems:
-Conflict is faced and discussed
-Friend tells me their assumptions
-I explain the truth, my perspective, and believe I've put their assumptions to rest
-They continue on with their assumptions and judge me based on what they think I was thinking or what my motivation was, regardless of what I said. In one case they even told me they thought I had said the opposite of what I actually had said.
The issue here is twofold: these people refused to take me at my word even though I was 100% honest, and obviously I didn't express myself clearly enough.
I also struggle with getting too emotional during discussions about conflict. I will start to cry and stuff. I really want to get over this and discuss things in a more logical manner.
I also have a hard time talking about what's bothering me. I will make little mentions of it here and there but I struggle with really having a serious conversation with someone about issues. I keep trying to tell myself it doesn't matter and to get over it, and the whole time the problem builds. I hate that about myself, but I'm working on it.