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    Senior Member wrldisquiethere's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    I would say mine is .. I don't like people assuming what i am thinking or feeling .. If you want to know then just ask .. Jumping to conclusions only frustrates me
    Same here! Same here! Ugh!

    My weakness I've realized lately is that I have a hard time expressing myself clearly. Here's what has happened several times and resulted in lots of relationship problems:

    -Conflict is faced and discussed
    -Friend tells me their assumptions
    -I explain the truth, my perspective, and believe I've put their assumptions to rest
    -They continue on with their assumptions and judge me based on what they think I was thinking or what my motivation was, regardless of what I said. In one case they even told me they thought I had said the opposite of what I actually had said.

    The issue here is twofold: these people refused to take me at my word even though I was 100% honest, and obviously I didn't express myself clearly enough.

    I also struggle with getting too emotional during discussions about conflict. I will start to cry and stuff. I really want to get over this and discuss things in a more logical manner.

    I also have a hard time talking about what's bothering me. I will make little mentions of it here and there but I struggle with really having a serious conversation with someone about issues. I keep trying to tell myself it doesn't matter and to get over it, and the whole time the problem builds. I hate that about myself, but I'm working on it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by wrldisquiethere View Post
    My weakness I've realized lately is that I have a hard time expressing myself clearly. Here's what has happened several times and resulted in lots of relationship problems:

    I also struggle with getting too emotional during discussions about conflict. I will start to cry and stuff. I really want to get over this and discuss things in a more logical manner.
    Yes siree Bob .. I can sit on my own after a heated discussion and clearly verbalise my own thoughts in my head which i know come across as rational and logic .. Yet i am unable to do the same when in the middle of the conflict .. As i feel hurt and i think that i am being unheard.

    I read a book recently that spoke about when dealing with conflict, to walk away and take a time out to compose yourself and your thoughts so you are not rambling on, playing the blame game and not reaching any conclusions as it becomes too emotional fueled. I had the opportunity the other night to put this into practice .. It didn't happen .. It will next time though, lol.

    Ahhh, the lessons we learn
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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    Yes siree Bob .. I can sit on my own after a heated discussion and clearly verbalise my own thoughts in my head which i know come across as rational and logic .. Yet i am unable to do the same when in the middle of the conflict .. As i feel hurt and i think that i am being unheard.

    I read a book recently that spoke about when dealing with conflict, to walk away and take a time out to compose yourself and your thoughts so you are not rambling on, playing the blame game and not reaching any conclusions as it becomes too emotional fueled. I had the opportunity the other night to put this into practice .. It didn't happen .. It will next time though, lol.

    Ahhh, the lessons we learn
    Yes. It's like we have the same personality or something.
    Si, Fe equal Fi & Ti

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    Quote Originally Posted by wrldisquiethere View Post
    Yes. It's like we have the same personality or something.
    .. Obviously i am going to stay an SJ as i like the people here but .. ESFP 81% ESFJ 77% ESTP 76% .. So at least i know i am an ES, lol.
    And i wouldn't change that for the world.
    “I made you take time to look at what I saw and when you took time to really notice my flower, you hung all your associations with flowers on my flower and you write about my flower as if I think and see what you think and see—and I don't.”
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    I hesitate when I should act. Fortunately, people don't notice that weakness, but that hardly makes the weakness any less severe.

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    I have never fit in well with my "peers (fellow undergrads, when I am around grad students or college grads I fit in well and have no problems)" and tend to be a loner in most environments. When I am in a low mood I gravitate towards nihilistic thoughts and feelings. I tend to brood during these periods. My biggest weakness would have to be my overwhelming propensity to be discouraged and pessimistic to an unrealistic level.
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    I have a weakness for french fries.......

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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    Whhhhaaaatttttttt?????

    Darling .. You do socialise, just not a party animal yet. You meet plenty of females it seems, you are just to picky .. And i don't know about the last bit, but seriously, cut yourself some slack, your only human babe.
    I do not deserve slack. ...Why would you say such a thing?
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    Quote Originally Posted by IZthe411 View Post
    I have a weakness for french fries.......


    How about sweet potato fries?
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    Quote Originally Posted by d@v3 View Post


    How about sweet potato fries?




    You can't do anything wrong with a potato of any kind!

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