I'm an applied ecology major (Wildlife Science), working on a group project for our capstone class, which is almost entirely based on theory. I got stuck with an ESFJ for a group project. How he got to his senior year in a Bachelor of Science program is beyond me, but this kid hasn't an objective bone in his body.
My other partners are two ISTPs with well developed Ns, so we get along great, and they get along well with the ESFJ. However, I can't seem to NOT clash with him.
Today what I thought was brainstorming- bouncing ideas off him while finding holes in both of our ideas- pissed him off. He told me that I was impossible to work with, and wasn't getting any work done because I wasn't writing anything down.
This baffled me, as I thought we had covered a lot of ground in the 30 minutes of discussion; we determined what would NOT work. I saw no need to write down this information.
So, if there are any ESFJs out there, how the hell do I not offend you, but still make sure you realize that your ideas are awful? (Not to say I don't have bad ideas, I want those to be purged as well! )
To me, ideas are tangible objects, with no ownership. I don't get offended if someone destroys an idea I come up with, in fact, I am glad someone saw its flaws before anything literally tangible came out of it!