Title was a bit long. I have a few thoughts here relating to Primary (possibly secondary) Function usage and generalized difficulties you experience in life on a day-to-day basis. (From as long ago as you can recall to right now.)
I'm well aware of what stresses me. As a result, I've been watching other people to see what causes them stress. Everyone is different, as we all know, but some things are just odd. Things that would drive me nuts some people are oblivious to. (Like when a TV's color settings are slightly messed up, or when a sign is crooked, etc, etc.)
Because of these differences in the causation of stress, I tend to believe that people have more or less empathy for certain individuals. Or in some cases, more or less patience for certain individuals.
I will use myself as an example here. In this case, I'm referring mostly to Si. From the time I was little until now, and I imagine for most of my life, one of the common difficulties I have is hesitation when doing new things. I need time to practice whatever the activity is, or "get used to it".
I'll get more specific. In the case of playing something on the piano. You see, I play the piano and the organ (usually the organ) at church, and generally, I play what I'm taught from the music minister. His teaching style isn't exactly my preferred style, but that's not the point of this particular discussion.
I generally understand what he wants me to play, but he's very....talented....at pulling a new song out of thin air ten minutes before choir practice or service. He, of course, expects me to be able to pick it up immediately and wow everybody.
Not patting myself on the back here, but I usually can pick it up immediately. Now here's the catch.....it never sounds good the first few times. (This is an obvious statement --- everything improves with practice.) While I'm unhappy with it, he still insists that we do it that day. While it sounds "great" to everyone else, it merely sounds "sufficient" to me. If I was more familiar with the piece beforehand, or had sufficient time to practice, it wouldn't be an issue for me. This causes a mild amount of stress for me.
Another example. When I was learning to drive, and even now, I'm hesitant when going somewhere new. I almost go into a minor form of panic --- studying local maps like a madman, making sure I have enough fuel, re-checking the directions, then printing them, asking Dad the quickest way to get there, or the most efficient, and so on.
Is this my Si attempting to see what I have not yet seen, and therefore causing an issue? Because a simple trip to somewhere I haven't been can become a minor case of stress for this little camper.
I was mostly targeting SJs for this particular thread, but anyone can jump in that has something to contribute. I would like to know your opinions on the matter.
To summarize above statements:
Throughout the course of your life, does your Primary Function (and possibly secondary) affect the things that cause you stress?
If so, in what way? What types of things cause you stress, and to what degree?
In relation to the earlier statement on empathy and patience, have you noticed certain people having more or less of either?
If they have more empathy, do they "know what you're going through", because they use the same function that you do?
Do people intolerant of your issue use a completely different function?
Looking forward to your input.