ESTJ's are the only type that I don't mind it when they are in charge. Maybe it's because I grew up with it. Anyway, I like ESTJ's because they seem to be confident and always have their shit together.
Yeah, if it weren't for one ESTJ guy I dated, I probably would agree 100%. Turns out, ESTJs can be a little more flexible and sensitive/caring (NOTE: Keep in mind, I'm basing this off of how relatively more caring he was than my previous long-term relationship with an INTP ) than I originally believed. -Everyone- liked him upon meeting him. He was just a really friendly, outgoing, likeable guy. And when I say outgoing, I'm not talking about attention-whoring like some other E's can be. He doesn't even really try to dominate conversations like most ETs I know, and tries to relate to everyone (ALMOST Fe). When he's "relaxing" and being social, he almost appears P-like. It's only on his own time or work-related time that he's 110% J. Then again, this could be just him, and not all ESTJs.
Do you find ESTJs tend to value your freedom and Independence more than any other type? I notice they can become good partners since they value the perceptiveness and freedom of an ISTP type. And I enjoy their definiteness and decisiveness it gets me out moving and excited.