ESTJs man they can get things done like no other.
My dad is one.
He is smart, he is clever, has a excellent job, well read, get shit done, never get fooled (except by me) but I would never ever ever want to be an ESTJ.
Why would I never want to be an ESTJ?
Cus with all those good qualities ESTJs have every quality in him that drives people insane.
Short fuse, Drama queen, control freak, annoying, stubborn, has the last word, never listens to others, I am always right etc.
I think your switch from plural to singular in the bolded sentence says a lot about your belief about ESTJs, i.e. that you're basing that belief off very little. Better to meet some ESTJs that are healthy and (gasp) likable before you make judgments on all of them.
I think ESTJs are the LEAST empathic type. and that sucks.
I agree that we aren't great with empathy, but... the absolute least? Really?
On to the question... I'd say ESTJ. Oh wait, I already am! But in all seriousness, I'd be an ISTJ. I respect those dudes SO much.
Between ESTJ or ESFJ.
Though I will prefer slightly ESTJ cause they get things done, VERY assertive and can be quite gregarious and friendly without being annoying or overdramatic.
ESFJ: I like them cause they are very people focused, very empathetic, quite organized and have many interest and opinions about quite different things. Though I believe they are something easily hurt (I know weird comment making by an oversensitive INFP).