I am curious about a statement an ISFJ (my stepmother) said, not sure if it has to do with type or not. But in the interest of better improving my relationship with her, Ive been researching mbti and thought this was an interesting statement she made and one I'm not fully sure if I understood what she meant.
For background, we have never gotten along. It was not all her fault, but I have felt (even as a small child in the relationship) Ive tried numerous ways, bending, flexibility etc. Our communication has always been strange as well as if it seems we both walk away from the conversation with a totally different impression of what the other just said. Whereas I am pretty blunt and pretty much say what I mean, for some reason she has always insisted there was a secret underlying secret and she knew what I was saying and acted accordingly. And vice versa, she wouldnt say what she meant but I was supposed to know there was a secret underlying secret. And, in the both cases chaos would ensue.
Ok, well to this point there is not much conversation and we have just come to an uncomfortable stale mate which is very hard for me. I would either like to cut her completely from my life (there have been many toxic elements as well, too long to go into) or to at least maintain a comfortable presence with one another. Lately, instead of talking to me, she does this funny thing where she will throw out a thing or two as almost it is an apology or wanting me to understand something about her, but will not talk directly.
Ok, ok get to the point. The latest thing she said in passing (and was completely out of the blue and foreign to the conversation) was that one of her daughters was dealing with a situation where she had to learn that other people were different from her and that is good for her (the ISFJ) to start learning too. I thought this was extremely strange at first cause I thought that was something everyone learned in elementary school, then I started thinking maybe she was wanting me to communicate with her how I was different? I'm not sure what this meant and why she said it to me. It gives me some sort of weird hope and maybe I should reach out again?
Also, is this something that pertains to the ISFJ personality type in general? For whatever reason, any *major* problem I have had with someone, they have seemed to be ISFJ in retrospect. However, I am just now learning about mbti so I could have those types wrong. And some ISFJ's are among my best friends. Seems like a hit or miss.