Yes. Another question about my enigma, the ISFJ. I'm sure you're getting sick of these. Oh well...
I know for the most part SJ's don't like debating, especially xSFJ's. Whenever my fiance gets into a debate with a particularly stubborn opponent, he gets angry and/or hurt. At work he has gotten into a lot of small debates where he would get very upset. Virtually every single time the person that got him upset would say incredibly stupid things (i.e. if you voted for McCain, you're a racist.)
My usual consolation consists of, "You didn't say anything wrong...*proceeds to go on why his argument is logically sound*...It's obvious that what they said is incredibly stupid anyway, so it doesn't matter." Of course, this doesn't typically work for anyone else besides another NT. He continues to be pouty. And what really bothers me is that sometimes he blames himself for other people's dumb actions, even though he had nothing to do with it.
I don't like seeing him upset, especially over something so superficial. What can I do to comfort him?