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    Carerra Lu IZthe411's Avatar
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    Default How affectionate/touchy feely are you SJs/STJs?

    I don't know if it's more of an I over E, but this is definitely one of developmental areas.

    I don't know how to tell my girl this, but for me the only time that type of physical contact is necessary is when we're doin it!!

    Otherwise I feel kind of smothered. For some reasons holding hands makes me feel some type of queezy if it's not leading to the do.

    Anybody else?

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    I'm not really at all touchy feely
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    I like to be affectionate, but only after I'm comfortable.

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    I love being affectionate with the person i love.
    It is particulary nice when i can just be touchy/feely and not have to worry how the other will react. Be it, stroking his hand. Lying on his chest listening to his heart beat or just going up to him and kissing him, all because i wanted to. *sigh*

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    I'd think that xSFJ's tend to be more affectionate than xSTJ's. My dad (ISTJ) was rarely affectionate with me. He only hugged me when it was time to shake hands in church, he never had any sort of pet names for me like some fathers have for their daughters, etc... He was sort of affectionate when I was little, but I don't think it was that often.

    My fiance (ISFJ) on the other hand, is quite affectionate. He loves to cuddle or give me random massages. He's very playful with his nieces. He seems to be a lot more in tune and responsive to how I'm feeling in general. However he rarely says "I love you."
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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    I love being affectionate with the person i love.
    It is particulary nice when i can just be touchy/feely and not have to worry how the other will react. Be it, stroking his hand. Lying on his chest listening to his heart beat or just going up to him and kissing him, all because i wanted to. *sigh*

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    Yeah I don't think I'm too open to the touchy/feely stuff either.
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    Yeah, I found with my ESTJ that he wasn't as touchy as I wanted, and I'm a fairly independent, doesn't like to be smothered person.

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    Quote Originally Posted by saslou View Post
    I love being affectionate with the person i love.
    It is particulary nice when i can just be touchy/feely and not have to worry how the other will react. Be it, stroking his hand. Lying on his chest listening to his heart beat or just going up to him and kissing him, all because i wanted to. *sigh*

    I thought it was more of an STJ over an SFJ, but I'd like to hear all sides.

    If I just put it for STJs, no SFJs would show up. LOL



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    Quote Originally Posted by SubjectA View Post
    I'd think that xSFJ's tend to be more affectionate than xSTJ's. My dad (ISTJ) was rarely affectionate with me. He only hugged me when it was time to shake hands in church, he never had any sort of pet names for me like some fathers have for their daughters, etc... He was sort of affectionate when I was little, but I don't think it was that often.

    My fiance (ISFJ) on the other hand, is quite affectionate. He loves to cuddle or give me random massages. He's very playful with his nieces. He seems to be a lot more in tune and responsive to how I'm feeling in general. However he rarely says "I love you."

    Yeah true. I want to say that it's all Ts who have this deficiency- what do you think?

    I can't reconcile any female not being touchy feely, though. I see you are an INTJ- how meaningful are those things to you? And does your friend's lack of I love yous bother you?

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    Generally this seems to be a T thing. However, I was talking with a couple of ENTPs who are in relationships and they felt that with their friends as well as their SO they were very physically affectionate. I think even with them though that wouldn't be consistent all the time maybe?

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